I'm in a loveless marrage (18 yrs) we have two teenage boys both headed for college. Should I stay and suffer through for the sake of the children or cut my loses now?
2007-09-03 14:23:51 · 9 answers · asked by chowboss74 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your not alone. I'm going through the same thing. I'm only here for my boys. Once they have left home I will leave too, If I can last that long. My theory is you only live once and I want to enjoy it, living in a loveless relationship is a total waist.
Good luck.
2007-09-03 14:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your wife and sons you just don't feel the affection you once did for your wife. I believe when it gets to that point the best thing to do is to move out for just awhile 6 months or so and within that time you have the space you want and need. Usually what happens only if there isn't a girlfriend in the picture is the two of you start to miss each other and you start dating and before you know it the love is back.But like i said if all this is over another woman you are not playing fair and lying to yourself and your family.
2007-09-03 14:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not doing your children any favors by staying in a loveless marriage. Your children know something is up and it is not healthy. It is not your childrens responsibility to make you happy that is up to you. By staying in a loveless marriage for their sake your teaching them how not to deal with problems and then they are bound to repeat what they saw in their own relationships. Your kids want their parents to be happy and at the age they are they can understand that. You also have to let them know how much you love them and always be there for them. It will be a period of adjustment for you and your kids but life is too short not to be happy.
2007-09-03 14:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bad enough that you have already made your mind up to leave, then I would vote for the cut and run method. Remember that there will be child support issues as long as the children are in college.
2007-09-03 14:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your spouse, lay out your cards and help each other resolve any issues or make the final decision to split. With some compromise and commitment to make the marriage work, maybe a counsellor can still help now so, give it a go and seek professional help now. Good luck!
2007-09-03 14:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put it this way. My parents stayed together for the sake of us kids, and all it did was make everyone in the house miserable. You've got one life. If you don't make yourself happy, no one is going to do it for you. Good luck.
2007-09-03 14:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by writer272002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be happy. Noone wants to suffer and be unhappy. Staying together for the kids, is no reason. They probably know something isn't right anyway.
2007-09-03 14:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by You can do it!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a divorce, your kids are out of the house, if you don't love your wife it's not fair to her anyway, it's better than beige miserable or cheat ting on her, be honest with her and yourself.
2007-09-03 14:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with godspeed
2007-09-03 14:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋