If you're someone who never really fit in at school, who did you join/go to?

Question

I ask because I was always (and still am) one of those people who everyone hates. I kinda talk to much. I hate it about myself too.
but I want to be a shy person but just can't! I want to fit in with a crowd, even if it's (gonna go to hell for this but) the preps.

I am like the extra piece in the puzzle that doesn't fit in anywhere and no one wants.

what do I do? don't say "be yourself!" cause that's not exaclty helping

Answer 1

hi, I would like to see you change your name. If you don't like yourself how can you expect others to like you. Learn to love yourself, motor mouth and all, and others will follow. Lose the urgency to be "hanging with others" and learn to "roll alone". You'd be surprised how others your age will respect you for it and even try to emulate it. Remember that many people feel the way you do so you aren't a freak or alone. I am not saying be yourself. I am saying get to know yourself, love who you are and change the things YOU don't like about yourself.

Answer 2

I understand the preps are actually not a bad group I wish I was smart enough to join them years ago think about this the preps have a large groups lots of parties and they are usually the ones running for senate ten years down the line . Trust me stay away from anyone who is not going anywhere because they will bring you down too even if you have to put on a show for a while act happy join those groups when available and talk its your best way in and once you are there you won;t be acting anymore.

Answer 3

Sweetie, you sound just like me. Believe it or not I was the Cheerleader that never had a boyfriend and didn't get asked to parties. I had friends that were in band, choir, punks (mohawks and all) and of course some of the other cheerleaders. But I didn't fit into any one group. I felt like I was invisible and a nobody. I just went to my 20yr high school reunion last yr. (I know, I sound old, but believe me I look and feel better than I did in HS) Anyway, I couldn't believe how many people came up to me and remembered me. And the ONLY guy that did ask me out in HS (and then stood me up) was totally hitting on me. He was divorced, 4 kids, fat and bald. And I had the pleasure of sharing pictures with him of my totally hot, built, sexy Italian boyfriend. I think he got the hint. What I'm trying to say is, its actually ok to not be part of any specific click. And as far as the talking thing, my best friends dad use to call me motor mouth. But now, my boyfriend and I enjoy a LOT of conversation as he is a talker too. If you need to talk, I'm here!

Answer 4

I would say that being yourself may work but it is not always that way...Just stop trying to fit in...Be your own...But not yourself...Listen sometimes when we desperately want for others to like us we end up trying too hard...Thats when you become the blame...They turn on you when they have no one else to blame..I stopped trying to fit in and now when I see that the ones that I wanted so desperately to hang out with ...Were not worth it to begin with...You do fit in..You are what I like to call a piece of reallity..No matter how you put it you are a piece of the puzzle..Smile and look out to a better sense and knowledge that you are your own..Form your own friendship circle and only turn away the knuckle heads....You know the kind...The ones that always love to cause drama, pain and ruin friendships...Those are the one that we end up feeling sorry for...remember that.....

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel. I think the best thing to do in your situation is to catch your own mistakes. What I mean by this is that if you notice that you talk alot, stop yourself before you begin to say something. If you notice that people don't want to be around you, don't hang out with them. I don't think being alone is a bad thing. High school is difficult because alot of people are going through life changes attributed to their age and it is hard to find people who are mature. Do things on your own and try and improve on the downfalls that you notice you have. The best thing to do is to improve instead of complain about it. Don't worry, things will begin to look up when you begin to make some changes deep down inside. Good luck.

Answer 6

Every one wants to fit in, and most of the time they don't. Its not a part of being yourself, its the part of being relax sit back and be cool listen to what every one else is talking about. May be you try too hard and that's why things happen,do not try so hard. enjoy your life do not be so hug up on fitting in, you will always have Friends,,have fun.

Answer 7

well start by slowlying hanging out with bunch of girls and then start talking and joining in. slowly but surely you can keep quiet abit and learn to when talk and not. this will get you into clique. you hae to learn what they are doing and do the same things and feel the same way etc. its hard to do but that is what they are doing agreeing with all that is sad. good luck

Answer 8

Just hang in there. It's times like these that will give you the strength and fire to make your life count for something. Believe me, you're not the only one. We're just spread out :)

Answer 9

hmm find wut ur interested in den try 2 tlk 2 ppl who r interested in the same stuff .... but if i wuz in ur skool i'd hang out wit u? - just ask.. cuz 4 me.. i feel like i'm u in my skool i mean i have friends n all but like sum ppl find me annoying n i kno i tlk 2 much.. so yeah if u have any othr questions or problems feel free 2 e-mail me... n i'd get bak at chu! glad 2 help u! =D

Answer 10

Good luck. I went all the way through school that way.