I just came back from a trip with a "friend". Her parents were wonderful and paid for my trip. My "friend" on the other hand was so selfish and mean the WHOLE trip and very jealous if I talked to her parents more then her or if we didn't do things her way. At one point, she said "we paid for her f**king trip, she can do what we want to do" She would say comments like that in front me. But since it was on a cruise ship, and I had no where to go, I held back my comments. Do I confront her now or is it too late? It had been over a year since I saw my friend and she wasn't like this before, that I know of.
2007-09-03 14:06:31 · 8 answers · asked by rusty49178 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend seems like a spoiled selfish brat. I believe you do not deserve a friend that will treat you like the way she has treated you on that cruise. If I were you,I would not say anything to her since it has been a year. I would just move on with my life, scratch your friendship with her off with an x, and make her your ex-friend. B/c she seems to have a lot of anemosity towards you. Secondly, I would definetely thank her parents for the hospitality, if did not do so already.
2007-09-03 14:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You showed remarkable self-control during that cruise.
Your "friend" is a control freak and there is a cost attached for her friendship. This is someone you don't want to "owe" because you can never repay her... never mind that her parents were incredibly generous to you. Just be polite to her and otherwise just give her lots of space.
Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.
2007-09-03 14:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi rusty49178,
Believe it or not, I think your friend is jealous of you. Jealous that you're hitting it off with her parents. Something she might be having difficulties doing. The way she talks, behaves is an indication of a spoiled girl who have every material needs but is starving for some sort of attention from the persons that mattered most to her. Let me just add that JEALOUSY has many disguises..One of them is anger. If you want to value her as a friend, then you have to be patient with her sharp tongue and dominnering ways..Show her you're a true friend. But if she continues to be such a boor..Then walk away. But with the knowledge that you've done everything to preserve the friendship..You'll be able to move on easily from there. What about her?? If she keeps this up..It's not only you who will abandon her..many will do the same..Hopefully by then she'll realize how much an *** she has become.
2007-09-03 14:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are going to need to confront her. I think your friendship is over. That happens a lot when friends travel together. For the future-- when anyone says something mean or you ask "What do you mean by that?" or "What would make you say a thing like that?"
2007-09-03 14:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lorre W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like somebody else said, be sure to send a very nice thank you to the parents. As far as the friend....Are you sure that she IS your friend? Let her live her life any way that she wishes, but that doesn't mean that you have to put up with it.
2007-09-03 14:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to confront an unresolved issue. I think you should bring it up to her. But, be careful how you choose your words because she seems like the defensive type. I think you should tell her how it made you feel when she made those comments.
2007-09-03 14:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by califonialove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of mine, be nice to them, but agnore them... Don't talk to her, but send the parents a thankyou note, and agnore her, DONE!
2007-09-03 14:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been over a year? keep going forward then, not back
2007-09-03 14:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Boxer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋