I got divorced last december. I have been seeing another women since march. She has been very good to me. She has 2 kids and was also married and divorced. We get along great and when we are together it is very relaxing and fun. I have stayed in contact with my ex. She recently moved away. We have been very respectful and close since the divorce. Sometimes I feel like I should be with her. Like I should do everything I can to get her back. Our marriage failed because of mistakes I made. I know what I need to do to make things work, and am sure that they would this time. I am afraid that I will regret it, if I don't take a chance to get her back, but I don't want to hurt the girl that is in my life now. I don't know the answers,and I feel like I do not know the questions sometimes. Please help.
2007-09-03 13:52:55 · 7 answers · asked by Southpaw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes you have to follow your heart. Have you talked with your x-wife and, told her how you feel? You have to be honest with her in order for her to be honest with you. As for the new girlfriend you have to be honest with her also. You don't want anyone to get hurt any more then everyone already has been. Maybe take a few days away from everyone and think about what it is you want for the rest of your life. And it usually takes two to tango in most things.....
2007-09-03 14:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever posed this question to your ex? Is she willing to give you another try or does she like the relationship you have now? If you do try again and for some reason it does not work out. The chances are slim that you will have this awesome relationship with her, she will probably have hard feelings that she may not overcome the second time around. I think you should sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel and go from there. She may not want to try again. At least you will know where you stand in that aspect of the relationship. Maybe she will answer this question for you.
2007-09-03 14:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you and your wife agreed to the divorce,its done and now you get along fine which indicates to me that it was a good idea.Stop second guessing your life.You have a good relationship with this new woman.Put all your efforts into making your relationship work and stop this juggling act.Close the book on your marriage and get on with your life.
2007-09-03 14:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't really ready to be with anyone else. You never resolved your isses with your ex. Why don't you spend some time without someone to find yourself first before you involve others in your inability to decide what's right for you. So many people can't imagine spending time with themselves and jump right into other relationships. It hurts those you jump into. Step back and get yourself together. Don't move forward with either your new or ex relationship. Get counseling, find out more about yourself and then make a decision. You will thank your counselor and yourself for doing so.
2007-09-03 14:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to bad, same case, but so what, the girl you are with did you no wrong, but because of a regret and a mistake you make is going to hurt for it, is that fair?
back to your question, the answer is let it go. Like i said said, been in the same case, but the girl i am with love me a lot and i like her a lot. i am not going to mess it up because of a regret
2007-09-03 14:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need time alone by yourself ... sounds like you need someone to complete you. Once you have something you want something else. I say move on and let your ex-wife have a good life.
2007-09-03 14:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by joni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is if shes "the one" then you knew it when you met her. if not, then remember shes an ex for a reason
2007-09-03 14:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋