we have been dating for almost 3 months, he said he likes me a lot, but he never said he loves me,he also says we have some communication issues bcos of language and culture,(he is american, and I am asian). last weekend, he took me to meet his parents who live 2 hours away, we spent the whole day together, does that mean he is seirous in this relationship? meeting parents in my country is a serious thing, but Im not sure if its the same in USA.
2007-09-03 13:43:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think if a man brings you home to meet his parents that necessarily means he is serious...He could be but be careful not to jump to conclusions...
My brother brought several girls home to meet my parents and he wasnt' serious about any of them...I know several men that have bought their girlfriends home to meet their parents and weren't serious about them...Like I said, that may or may not be your situation but be careful not to get ahead of yourself...It has only been 3 months, which isn't a long time, so I would rather you be safe than sorry...
Way too often women put their hearts out there so quickly and that is how they end up hurt... Just curious, do you and the guy your dating ever talk about where you are in your relationship? Where the relationship is going? Or how you feel about eachother? Do yourself a favor and slow down a little bit...American culture is very different from Asian culture...Don't go meet his parents with the idea that "this must mean he is serious about me" because if it doesn't, you'll end up having expectations that may seem unrealistic to the person you're dating because both your perspectives on that day spent with his parents are entirely different from the other!
If you really want to know whether the guy you're dating is serious about you, ask him... but be prepared because what he says can go either way...don't get upset if he says he cares about you but wants to take it slow...Enjoy yourself and him...Take it slow...Let the relationship evolve naturally...
Best wishes to you and your guy!
2007-09-03 14:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Nik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be. It means he's certainly serious about you right now but it doesn't necessarily mean he's ready to propose. Sometimes we take dates home to see what the parents think. You should be able to tell from your conversations together how serious you are getting so this question shouldn't really be a question. Ask him. You should be talking about serious relationship issues at 3 months,not second guessing. Why aren't you asking him how he feels about family, kids, marriage, mutual careers, life together in general? You have every much invested here to take it to the next level or not without asking if he's serious. What are your serious issues? Has he met them? If not, what his parents think have nothing to add except a nice social call.
2007-09-03 13:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something that happens - I'm in the same situation. Parents tend to want to at least know what their child's significant other is like, even in the US, but it's not such a big deal as it is back in Asia.
He might just want to take it slow with the relationship, which is a good thing. I know it took my boyfriend four months to be sure that he loved me (and at about that time, I was trying to figure out how to tell him the same)...so he could just be waiting. However, I don't know the man you're talking about, so I can't say much.
2007-09-03 13:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Yuki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Yh, YES he is serious any time a guy takes you to meet mommy and daddy he is serious. Most men are afraid to say,
"I LOVE YOU" give him time and he will say it. Don't you say it first let him say it!!!
Lol
A Friend.
poppy1
2007-09-03 13:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by poppy1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so. But I used to go out with this guy (who is a jackass btw), and he wanted me to meet his mother like a week after I met him.
2007-09-03 14:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be.. but american men dont just jump into marriage.. been with mine for 3 yrs and no ring.. dont think i will ever get one.. don't matter any more atleast to me it don't
2007-09-03 14:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is serious
2007-09-03 13:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋