Listen to your parents? WHY?

Question

i think a lot of people base their lives around what there parents want of them. doesnt that make them dependent and needy of thier parents. will they ever just do what they want?

Answer 1

if they don't do what their parents want of them they will do what society wants of them. same s*it...

Answer 2

there comes a point when a person changes from a child to an adult. When that change occurs, theoretically, people should be able to live their own lives doing things how they want them done. There is always going to be a part of a person that is going to put more stock into what a parent says just because it's their parents.

People who are unable to live their lives freely without constantly listening to and doing what their parent's say are dependent and unhealthily needy of their parents.

Answer 3

When we're growing up, we go through stages where we idolize our parents, respect them, barely tolerate them and hate them, not necessarily in that order. My experience is that no matter how a person feels about their parents, they make their own choices in life and may or may not follow the advice of mom and dad. Once we get older, we appreciate where our parents are coming from and what they did for us, and we learn to forgive them for the mistakes they made too. Every adult I've ever met who was totally dependent and needy of their parents had serious psychiatric and personality problems, and I figure that their parents not only deserve them, but they're doing the rest of us a favor by keeping them out of society at large.

Answer 4

That would depend on the person. For some people what their parents want is what they want regardless of how their parents feel.

Some people need to be dependent on the opinions of others in order to find their own opinions.

Some people need to rebel against the opinions of others in order to find their own opinions.

We all try to lead our lives as best we can. We take different paths and make different mistakes. None of it is wrong just as none of it is the single right way. Whether we actively search our own path or stumble upon it blindly we are following the right path for us. We are making only the decisions we can at any point in our lives based upon our experiences up to that point. No one can ever do any more or less.

Answer 5

what your asking is very age relevant. as u age your able to form ideas and make judgment calls by processing information available. being dependent and needy is part of the growing process and parents responsibility to let u learn how to become independent in a safe environment. Now at age 25 it would be a very bad thing and showing signs that you are having problems. Unfortunately works other way too as parents often have problems in the early 20's letting their child make life's mistakes.

Answer 6

i think you should listen and follow. most parents would give advice for the betterment of their son or daughter. the advice they give is their way of guiding you so that you won't make terrible mistakes and you'll be a good successful person in whatever field you choose. remember, they have been to where you are right now and must have experienced what you are experiencing now. as you age, you'll realize that nothing beats wisdom.

again, it is up to you. your parents just give you advice. i beleive that young people know what's wrong or right, it's just that they are so free-willing and would try anything new even if they know it's wrong. your parents care about you so much that they don't want you to suffer the consequences of your decisions and regret afterwards.

don't equate following your parent's advice with dependence. the advice you get is your guide. the greatest gift there is is freedom. parents just want the best paved road to freedom for their children. it is up to you if you want to follow that road.

Answer 7

You may be right...but, then theres the flip side of the coin. When you're under-age (not child, but not yet legal adult) your parents can give lots of good advice. You have to remember...they were your age, and though the years change, the basic situations don't. There is peer pressure, societal pressure, cultural pressure...no matter what era you were young in...and their trials and errors are as valid as anyone else's. its just that their love and concern for their children make them more, um-mm, overbearing.
When you are an adult, and you can freely make your own choices, pay your own way..then, live your way.

Answer 8

I think its because our parents are more experienced. When they say no, they mean it for some reason, parents arent big cruel mean monsters. And why wouldnt you want to listen to them, their the ones whom bought you into this world. Not only that, but if we didnt listen to them, society's kids would be way worse than what they already are lol.

Answer 9

Because they have gained wisdom you have yet to obtained. If people really listened to his or her parents there would be alot of healthy, happy people running around. Instead because children refuse they must suffer the consequences of his or her actions which can alter the course of life from here on out.

Answer 10

There is a difference between listening to your parents and being obedient of your parents. I listen to what my mom says. I listen to her advice and take it to heart when I make a decision. But, I do not always obey what she says.

Answer 11

You shouldn't have to listen to your parents. People usually copy their parents uncosciously. Everything anyone wants is caused by their surroundings, including their parents.