my ex has pics of his new daughter all over his myspace page and not one of our son on there....i think this is pretty crappy - my son is such a sweetheart - i am mad and upset by this, i feel very bad for my son....should i say anything? or put a message on there? can he block me if i do?
2007-09-03 12:41:15 · 17 answers · asked by Texasgal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we both just had the baby - he had cheated on me, but we are still friends - i am even friends with his new wife - so both of our children are young - and i just feel bad for the situation my son has...thanks for all the input
2007-09-03 12:52:31 · update #1
yah i try not to argue - i don't even speak up for myself/my son - so that we don't argue - i don't want the situation to be any worse
2007-09-03 12:54:44 · update #2
Tell your husband how it makes your son feel that he's pictures aren't on the page.
How old is your son....and how does he know his pictures are not on the page?
Please make sure this about your son's feelings and not your own.
2007-09-03 12:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've always thought it inappropriate for people to post pictures of their young children on Myspace anyways. How would you feel if someone posted pictures of you in a public forum without your consent? There are all kinds of creeps & weirdos out there, so it's just as well that your son isn't exposed. However, you should definitely talk to your ex if he is treating your son differently in general. If he is not acknowledging your son or being a part of his life you should ask him to step up a bit. And Myspace is not the place to have an important, MATURE family discussion. Call him or meet him privately.
2007-09-03 19:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Terious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is listed in the category as "none of your business". You might mention that it would be nice if he were to add a few pictures of his son, but if you say it in a pissy manner he will most likely not do it out of spite. If his son is old enough to mention it to his dad, he should. If he is too young to mention it then he is probably too young to be affected by it one way or the other. But you need to pick your battles carefully with your ex. You have a child together and it is best to try and deal as peacefully as you can for your son's sake. It sounds like (just maybe) you are jealous of the new child's attention and you are upset more for that reason then for any harm done to your son. Open your own Myspace page and put your son's pictures there.
2007-09-03 19:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to make things worse by speaking out, how much worse can it get. You let your ex walk all over you. I would give him a piece of my mind,I'm sorry but his actions are very disrespectful to you and to his son. Is that how it works,you cheat on your wife then divorce her marry the whore he cheated with and she gets preg. by the cheating husband so he marries her and now he is so proud of his new wife and his new baby,well good for him but look at all the hurt he is still doing. It doesn't mean he has the right to forget about his first and real family in my opinion I'm sorry but i have know compassion for a cheating Ahole. Don't hold back the way you feel just to keep the peace that's not the way to handle this if you do nothing he will think nothing is wrong by him bragging about his new baby and you don't have a problem with it. Never hold back your feelings,if you hurt tell him you hurt and why. What he is doing is not fair and not right.
2007-09-03 20:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well just be nice about it, You do need to tell him now before your son is old enough to find out for himself and then think that he is not loved by his own father when you are still friends with him and his new family, he will think hes not wanted. You do have every right to stick up for your own son even though his dad was the *** that cheated on you!
2007-09-03 20:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by nichole l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to point it out to him in a way that is non confrontational. Send him an email telling him you thought the pictures on his my space were cute and in the email send him some pictures of your son and tell him you thought they were cute and that he might like to post these ones too. Use a friendly tone of voice. If he doesn't post them then I would talk to him about it, again in a calm non confrontational manner to find out why he might not be wanting to show off his son like he does his daughter.
I doubt he is consciously trying to exclude his son and it may be that he may have feelings of guilt regarding his son because he can't be as big a part of his life as he is his daughters and we tend to avoid the things that make us feel guilty. Or I might be completely off base, only he knows for sure.
Good Luck.
2007-09-03 22:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by C T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could block you up on myspace anytime... but yeah, I would ask him about it. It does seem unfair he has no pictures of your son up there and you should ask him if he really does care for him. If his daughter was recently born, though, it could be just the moment. Most newborns get a lot of attention.
If you can, wait a little to see if the pictures die down. Also, it might help if there were recent pictures of him and his son, too.
2007-09-03 19:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tricia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mad because a man that you don't love, is proud of his new child?? It sounds more like you're jealous of the new kid. Sorry, you can't be. That is not your man anymore, it's someone else's. And don't feel bad for your son. You obviously left your ex for reasons that were great enough to seperate your little boy from him. So turn this around to your advantage. You are now mommy and daddy to your little boy and just smile and say, "How nice that my ex is happy now." Don't let on that this bothers you to anyone INCLUDING YOUR SON. Don't bring that poor kid into that drama. He doesn't deserve bear the weight of you and your ex's mistakes. That's totally not cool and completely unfair. Why screw up his childhood?!
If you need someone to talk to, vent on here or go see a counselor.
2007-09-03 19:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would voice my feelings to him before adding comments to his myspace. Ask him why he hasn't put any pictures up of your son. Let him know how this would hurt your son if he was to find out that his father didn't put his pictures up.
2007-09-03 19:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by blondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time off and pull him a side and talk to him about it. I don't think you want to do the myspace messaging because he might block you.
2007-09-03 19:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by emoteddybear02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try not stalking the ex by reading his myspace page, he probably put up pics because he just had a new kid, its a big deal
maybe he should put some of the boy up but is it really any of your business? at least just call and tell him in person instead of making some nasty remark on his myspace page
not sure why an actual adult has a myspace page but thats a different topic
2007-09-03 19:47:01 · answer #11 · answered by swenjj 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋