I believe a very close family member is a pathalogical liar. I have caught her in so many lies it is unbelievable, even when confronted about the lie she will stand there and totally deny it, it is kind of creepy how she can believe her own lies. I have talked to a few family members and found out she has lied ever since she was a kid, about anything and everything. The last time I got into it with her about a lie, I said if you don't tell me the truth right now I will never speak to you again, she said "ok fine, it wasn't a lie, it was a mis-representation." Last time I checked they are the same thing. Anyways, should I just ignore the lies or keep confronting her with them or just distance myself? Due to the fact that she is such a close family member it is hard to totally distance myself, yet it is hard to sit there and look at someone lie all the time. I am sorry it is so long.
2007-09-03 11:53:33 · 10 answers · asked by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i can see that you find it difficult to distance yourself from her because of the close family ties that you have. but the positive part here is you and your family are very much aware that she is a pathological liar. the simplest and most effective thing to do is not to believe her. if she tells story regarding this and that, then don't believe her. just go along with the wave. let her be. and in the long run, when she realize that no one already believes in every word that she say, then there might be the slightest chance that she will get conditioned of not lying anymore. but then, my advice, for now, don't believe her. ^_^
2007-09-03 14:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Timawa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law loved me very much, but it was so difficult for me to deal with her. She lied every day. When I would realize she was telling another lie, it would infuriate me. She is in a nursing home now and is very alone because everyone was tired of her- me included. I forgive her her shortcomings, but I know it'shard. Try to remember it is a mental illness. Maybe just try to be a little more ready to tolerate. They have miserable lives because of all the lies. They don't know what to believe about themselves. It's really sorta sad.
2007-09-03 12:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by fiftyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer recognize of any incorrect way of dealing with it than catching them out and making it completely sparkling you recognize they're a compulsive liar. I understand the project with comulsive liars is they view their lives as so uninteresting and uninteresting (no longer a lot certainly actuality, in basic terms their thought of actuality) that they sense the ought to make up all varieties of information to objective and create the impact that their lives are exciting and exciting.
2016-10-09 21:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little sister told me that this one lier she knew was in a room with her one time , so she asked him to tell her a story about how he became president , or tell her how he became a Dr. or something , You havn't told me any new stories lately ,, He told her he was hert , she replied , well I can believe that Too , but you have to make it up , or how will I believe you , the guy was really shook, they had a real heart to heart , because she excepted him as a lier , he didn't know to deal with that ,,
So I sugest just teasing with her , PLAY , never give her your trust , just play
2007-09-03 12:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate liars
when i dealt with a pathological liar i said "arent you embarrassed about what kind of person you are? lieing to get your way like a child" it was a friends wife that i didnt have many problems with until she screwed me over on something and lied about it. now they are separated and my friend has custody of the kid...thank god. im ranting but it gives you an idea of the type of person they are, i dont think they will change.
2007-09-03 12:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Wes Mantooth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't deal with them. Take it all in and put no stock at
all in any thing said (it's now time to practice not spreading
gossip). When the talk is done, forget the contents and
the occurence of the entire conversation.
2007-09-03 12:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about, dang! You just take what they say with a grain of salt Its when they actually tell the truth thats scary!
2007-09-03 20:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by foxfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont her crap--distance yourself and just put up with her when shes around only. once a liar always a liar and definaatly cant be trusted..sorry...
2007-09-03 12:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not deal with them at all.
2007-09-03 12:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
their called psychopathes no consceicen no real feelings you should stay safely away.
2007-09-03 12:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋