The pill??

Question

Im almost 18, and i want to get on the pill without my parents finding out. Is there anyway to get on it without them knowing. Im not at the moment sexual active but i want to be prepared because im in a serious relationship with my bf, and we have talked about marriage and children. but at the moment neither of us want a child.

I have no problem talking with my mom about this but its my dad. My bf has asked me to marry him but i told him no because i was only 16. so dont be judging me for asking a question

He respects me for who i am, and isn't pushing me to have sexual relationship with him, i just dont want to be taking a chance.

Im very open with my mom, but me and my dad dont have a close relationship, but both my parents love my boyfriend

Answer 1

First of all Congratulations for making this choice. Second, planned parenthood can help you without telling your parents. I'm not sure what kind of relationship you have with your parents (I'm assuming it may not be very open considering you don't want them to find out) but is always best to discuss this kind of thing with them.. How do they feel about your bf? If they approve of him They may be more open about birth control than you think.. Tell them you are not sexually active but you would rather be safe than sorry so to say etc. If they are not open to this then your best bet is to go to planned parenthood..
Best of luck to you...

I just read that you do not have an issue discussing this with your mother, talk to her you don't have to talk to your dad...
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Cassandra

Answer 2

Yep, just go and see your GP. (Doctor) They can even give contraception out to under 16s without parents permission nowadays! I went on the pill at at 17, as for one thing I was getting very heavy painful periods and I was thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. I am now on the injection. As long as you are certain and protect yourself, there is nothing wrong with havent sex with this boy. Its the things you dont do that you regret rather than the things you do after all! Haha.

Answer 3

Dear Friend, With or without birth control, it is likely that eventually, when two unmarried people tempt themselves by being alone with one another, someone will get pregnant or share a disease. Although you are not currently sexually active, it sounds like you have already made a decision to be. This is very dangerous. You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline, or call 1800afamily. Sincerely, Runner

Answer 4

Nobody is judging you, sweetheart, we're simply stating the facts that you are choosing to ignore.

You are getting ahead of yourself talking about having sex with a man you're not married to.

Just have a little patience. Wait until you are old enough to say "yes" to this guy and then get married and start your family. It's a simple answer, I'm not sure why you are making this difficult.

Answer 5

Don’t pay attention to Dixie Cat’s comment: It’s 2007!!! You’re not the only 1 having sex before marriage. But Planned Parenthood offers confidential services. That’s where I got my 1st batch of pills because I didn’t want my parents to know either. Or, if your comfortable, ask your boyfriend’s parents for assistance in getting the pills. If you think you are mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to ask your parents for birth contol. But, only ask them if you find it difficult to get them on your own. Whatever you do, DO NOT decide to have unprotected sex!! It will be even harder to explain to your parents that you are having a baby. Your parents are expecting you to ask about birtch control one day, They should be helpful.

Answer 6

Ok, as a man I think you're totally clueless to be thinking about becoming involved sexually with this guy. Who cares if he's a "serious boyfriend." That's no guarantee it will last. And what if you get pregnant?

Find a man who will respect your body and wait to have sex (and children) when he is married to you.

Answer 7

You can go to your Dr he can not tell your parents,BUT as a parent myself it would be much better to talk to your Mam,do not forget she was in your situation once and is probably waiting for you to ask so she can be there for you Trust Her.And please do not use the Pill as your only form of contraception.

Answer 8

The Pill is not 100% effective. No type of birth control is. The most mature thing to do is wait until you are married, then start talking about children.

And please don't go to Planned Parenthood. I have dealt with them before. They do 20 percent of the abortions in America and they come into the schools and teach Kindergarten age kids how to have sex. They should not be supported.

Answer 9

if you don't want your mom to know you're getting on the pill to be sexually active, think twice about wether you're mature enough to be having sex if you can't even tell your parents. if it's just your dad that's the problem, have your mom talk to him.

that said, talk to her about getting on the pill for the other reasons - makes periods regular, helpswith acne and hormones, etc.

but really, if you're on her health insurance, she's going to know you're on the pill one way or another. if it still doesn't seem possible to get on the pill, you can use condoms and spermocide.

Answer 10

Just go to your doctor, it's the best way. You're almost 18, you should be able to talk to your parents about it. You can even say you're doing it for various reasons, like having lighter, regular periods. It's a sign of maturity and adulthood, being able to talk about these subjects.