Lately, I've been having lots of anxiety and panic attacks. I know it has something to do with VERY low confidence...someone made a comment on how quiet I was the other day and I kept replaying that moment in my head and I felt so out of control, I got another panic attack. I have NO confidence in myself, and I talked to my mom about it. She feels guilty, she thinks she and my dad contributed to this. They've been pretty harsh towards me over the years. They always put me down and yelled at me, but I know their intentions were good. My dad isn't exactly a warm person, and he thinks scolding always works. I've heard lots of times that if I didn't improve my social skills, I would fail at whatever I tried. Do you think that could've played a part in my anxiety/low-confidence today?
2007-09-03 10:54:46 · 3 answers · asked by Katy H 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is certainly possible, but now that you are older, you could turn what they did into a positive. Note, what you didn't like about their approach, so you won't do that to your kids. Not how you work harder so that you also put more effort into things than others will. You get what you are raised with, but you don't have to let it handicap you. If you have trouble doing this on your own, go talk with someone.
2007-09-03 11:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course they have influenced you. I would confront your father with your feelings, and ask him why he was so hard on you. If you are too shy to do this in person, then write it down and give it to him. You might be surprised at his answer.
2007-09-03 11:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they always can and will
2007-09-03 11:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~Smile~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋