so, I need everyones help. I am dating the most amazing guy out there, he treats me perfect, like a queen, he's so respectful. and we don't need anything but eachother to be happy, just being in his arms makes my whole day. we are perfect together.... but theres a catch.... he is 19, and i am under age. my mom isn't alright with me dating guys because she is afraid i will get hurt... but she knows Nic very very well and trusts him, our whole family has known him for about 3 years. we have been dating behind her back and finally have discided that it cant happen anymore, that she deserves to know, we both respect her to much. so we are both willing to talk to her and break her the news, but my biggest concern is that she will not allow him to come by anymore, and will not approve, please, this isn't just another high school relationship to us, but something serious... love. Please, anyone and everyone, give me idea's of things to say, it would help very much, especially since i am planning on doing this today, just please, give me your idea's, thank you so much for your time.
2007-09-03 10:37:43 · 2 answers · asked by B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you feel "this isn't just another high school relationship to us, but something serious... love"
you must respect YOUR FEELINGS rather than IDEAS OF SILLY STRANGERS like me.
Biologically First feeling comes Second Ideas.
You say you are under age... but that will be over within few months or so. but let not your Feelings be suppressed by Ideas.
You need to continue this relationship without Fear and Guilt.
You just ,only you , go to your mom when she is cool,calm and hug her , tell her you want her to know something about you.
Tell her Mom what do you want me alive , throbbing and Loving or Me Existing Breathing without Love..
she has known the Nic for 3 years so she will understand ... you serious question. But she feels that your underage may get you hurt in the sense that Your Sexual Immaturity will put you in such a position that your future time will not be enjoyable to you if at this stage you start any sexual enjoyment.
She is right and you too are right in your place.
So you have to make sure she is convinced that you will not be involved physically to such extent which is harmful to you This will relieve you mom worries
2007-09-03 14:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jhentee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok from my experience break it to her gently but don't lie tell her how you feel about him and give him an oppurtunity to tell her how he feels about you, if your mother trusts him like you say then don't worry about her turning him away unless of course you are really under age like under 17 because he can get into trouble for so much as looking at you crossed eyed. so if you guys really cared, if this is a problem, you can spend time together as friends and wait till your old enough to date him. I was once in your same predicument at your age, Now I am a mother, my oldest son is 17 and he hasn't had a " serious" relationship yet but in that I do trust his judgement and he trusts my opinion. please give your mom an oppurtunity to explain her feelings because I will bet it will be that she is concerned about your ages. Good Luck!!
2007-09-03 20:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by suziequick71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋