Do you think couples have to share every little thing together?

Question

I've had friends who share everything with their special other from diaries to e-mail passwords they share EVERYTHING.

So I wonder if it's really necessary. My boyfriend has a similar outlook but I'm not so sure I understand the importance of it. I'm an extreme introvert and I tend to keep my space and deep thoughts to myself. Should I really step out of my comfort zone?

Answer 1

Do couples have to share EVERYTHING together? I would say no (and I'm married 23 years). But there has to be a degree of sharing, otherwise there's no intimacy in the relationship, and I am not referring to sex.
You do need to be willing to open up to your partner, in order for them to be able to understand who you are, but it doesn't have to happen overnight. The more comfortable you are with them, the more trust you develop in your relationship, the more of yourself you can offer to them. Your boyfriend probably looks on the ability to share as an indication of that trust. Let him know how you feel, and ask him for the time to develop this with him. He can't have it all his way, and you can't have it all yours. Compromise is what is needed.
Some people just need some private time, and you are entitled to that. Some people (myself included) need that in order to recharge their batteries, and for others it being and sharing with others that helps recharge them. Work out what gives the both of you something of what you need.

Answer 2

Sharing everything with eachother builds trust, but ofcourse this takes a lot of time and effort. Also, you both need to be at the same level of trust. You said your friends share EVERYTHING, but they might have different reasons for sharing things like email passwords or diaries. Sharing more causes the couple to feel more relaxed with eachother. Less things to be paranoid about. Don't keep everything locked up inside because it may cause your boyfriend to think you're keeping secrets from him. If you're having doubts about anything, talk to your boyfriend. Communication is the key. Don't let your friends influence you in your relationship.

Answer 3

I think each couple should determine their own level of sharing I do not condemn people who choose to share or not share everything...it is only the two in the relationship that have to deal with their choices so NO do not step out of your comfort zone unless you decide to as a couple, its nobody s business what you decide. Take care.-Rachel.

Answer 4

Every person has a right to have some private space. You don't have to share it to someone else if you don't want to. Sharing something confidential to others might put you into an awkward situation. It is really up to you what you want to reveal to others.