Anyone have some advice for me. (no rude people only people who want to help)?

Question

Has anyone ever really liked a name that others just rip apart? What do you do when everyone hates and shoots down every single name you like. I get tired of hearing this. If i picked the name jane some would like it but others would say its "boring, plain" if i picked jennifer "they would say too common" If i pick something not boring and not common for instance aveline "too unusual, weird, u have no sense as a mother, dumb, and MY FAVORITE you are just trying to be trendy or too creative". I am confuzed. My names are either, not unique, too unique, too trendy, too old fashioned, or not madison rose or emily rose. When did being different turn into a sin?

Anyone else have trouble finding a name and want to talk if so. Message me on yahoo messenger [e-mail]

thanks everyone. And for the record i do understand that people have an opinion. but i think with a name you shouldnt call someoen a bad parent for naming there kid that or say that you are stupid for liking it. People can say they hate the names i like or that its not for tem or whatever, but its just plain stupid to call me a bad mom for what i want to name my kids. My daughters name is izabella cameron juliana hayes and i love her to death and her name even if everyone else thinks im a bad mom with horrible taste, i know im not. I

Answer 1

Just think of it this way.............

Ask all of those people (who put down the names you have chosen) what THEY would choose instead. I guarantee you that the names they come up with are either too plain, common, weird, unusual etc. for your taste. Works every time. Don't let anyone get you down about your name choices :)

EDIT: Kind of like getting a thumbs down for an opinion? --->
It makes no sense to me......

Answer 2

I have to totally agree with you. I just hate it when people on here are so mean and rude. But I am a really nice person, and even if I hate a name someone is asking an opinion on, I either don't answer the question all together or atleast say something nice. People don't have to be so rude. For example, I really like the name Raleigh for a girl. Well, the first time I mentioned it to my parents, my daddy made this ugly face and said "Please, No!" I mean, I thought it was supposed to be my child and I can name it whatever I choose. I have just about gotten to the point that my husband and I have agreed not to tell anyone the name before it is born. That way, we don't run the risk of our feelings getting hurt. I let people's opinions really get to me sometimes and I shouldn't . I think as long as you like it, that should be all that matters. There is nothing wrong with the name being unusual. It is just a way for your child to stand out on a list of common names. I wish you the best of luck in finding a name for your bundle of joy and don't let anyone bother you on here! Have a great weekend! :)

Answer 3

Girl, it is 100000000000% up to you and no one else. Well ofcourse, the husband has to be agreeable to it. I personally LOVE unique names. My boyfriend shoots down every single name I come up with. I hate it! He cracks jokes about them all day long and it really does offend me. Worst of all, he can't even come up with one name for a boy or girl that he actually will agree to. No suggestions, nothing. Just says "I don't know, we'll see". Umm...when?! I think there are many people on here that go too far. They are rude to others about their name selections for the simple fact that they refuse to be open-minded and tap into their creativity. Ofcourse there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. There's a difference between "unique" and outlandish. I absolutely do not see one thing with the name you chose for your daughter. And a choice of name in NO way determines if a woman is a good mother or not. Speaking from personal experience of a commonly overdone name----My name is Kylie and I've never really loved my name, but at the same time never hated it or could even think of any other name I'd rather have. For a while in school I had 3 other Kylie/Kailee's in my homeroom alone. That was obnoxious to me. I hated sharing my name with someone so closely. So I think it's great that you'd rather give your child their own identity then choose an overdone name. So props to you!

Answer 4

My second daughter has an uncommon name -- an actual name without a creative spelling or anything, but many still felt the need to express their dislike when we first chose it. Now everyone agrees it's a lovely name that suits her perfectly (and most claim not to remember ever disliking it in the first place LOL).

I also think I mentioned in one of your posts regarding Aveline that this exact name was short-listed for number three. So I certainly know what comments you're referring to. ;)

I've found that the saying is true ... people fear what they don't understand. So if you choose something not in the top ten or, God forbid, something less common that reflects your heritage (like Talulla, Niamh or Imogen for me), many will have a negative initial reaction. Simply because it's not the norm, I suppose.

I haven't had a problem with people finding my daughter's names "too common," even though two of them are quite so! Most don't follow naming trends like many of us do, so they just think Emily (or whatever other very-popular name) is the most unique thing out there. ;) Or worse, make comments about how "ugly and old-fashioned" a name is, even if it does happen to be extremely common. Just look at the top ten list! LOL

So really, I think as long as you've established and are comfortable with your own style, that's all that matters. You can never please all the people, all the time, right? ;)

Answer 5

I am at work and can not message you right now...we don't have that option on these computers.

BUT, nobody likes the names my husband and I have chosen either. I think you just need to stop worrying about it so much and choose the names you love. My sister is named Leda...she used to hate it growing up, but now she loves that her name is so unique. It also fits her perfectly!!! I bet nobody liked that name when my mom suggested it 30 years ago!

We have settled on using Paige Delaney, Avery Claire, or and Emerson Tate. We got bad remarks about all of those, but the good remarks made us realize that no matter what name you choose, there will be some people who like it and some who love it.

Since this is your child, make sure it is a name you love. Your child can always go by a nickname if he/she decides they hate it.

Good luck and just so you know, most of the names you have posted about it the past are actually pretty cute. People on here say mean things just for the fun of it. Try going to a baby name blog (or babyzone.com)...you may get better advice.

Answer 6

Yes, my family and some friends did that when I was going to have my daughter. They thought the names I chose were too weird. I decided to just name my daughter what I wanted. I have even had strangers like the nurse at the pediatrician's office say my daughter's name and make a face and state she has never heard that name before. Well, the name I chose for my daughter fits her, she is 3 now and just loves her name! But I am glad I made my choice to name her what I wanted.

Answer 7

You can never please everyone, that's a proven FACT over history! As long as YOU think the name is perfect for your new baby, that is all that should matter. Bump the haters. People that have a problem with your baby name either have NO children of their own, or ONLY like the names of their children.
For example Gweneth Paltrow named her baby "Apple." MOST people say that its a 'weird' name for a child or that she just wanted attention, but Gwen does not seem to pay any mind to what everyone is saying.
Just keep in mind that you can NEVER please everyone... it's sometimes impossible even to please the majority. If you and the father simply adore the name, give it to the child with confidence and ignore what anyone else says.
If I ever have children, I plan on choosing something that is completely original or something that I have not heard before. If people do not like it, who cares!! I'm not having a baby and naming it to please OTHER people!!
My advice: Give your child a name that is primarily UNHEARD of but one that you LOVE!! Some people will hate it, but MOST people will admire your originality.

Answer 8

You are the parent, and you could name your kid whatever you wanted. Who cares what other people think. Just do keep in mind, when it comes to a name, the child has to live with it. So, dont go name'n your child something that's easy to poke fun at. (I went to school with a kid named James, and his last name was bond, not kidding) I guess if you pick a name that is outside of the box, eventually it will grow on people. Just pick something that your child can use if they land a professional job.

Answer 9

It's fine. People who actually choose those names don't get killed for it or anything. As for unusual names, I like the ones you choose! And if people think they're TOO unusual, just find a nickname. Jennifer isn't really becoming common these days, no one really even picks it anymore because they THINK it's too common. I suggest simply finding the name you like best, and if it stills seems weird or something to others, find a nickname. Good luck!

Answer 10

Heres what you do...you and your husband/partner decide on your baby's name and do not tell anyone.. if anyone asks tell them that you have some picked out but have not decided yet...thats what my friend did..she had the same problem you have. Everyone kept shooting her names down. So her and her husband just kept their ideas quiet and when the baby was born they announced the name! Hope this helps...it worked for her. No one said anything about the name when he was born By the way she named him Ethan Bailey