my baby is 7 weeeks old now and i am breast feeding her, she would only go to sleep if she was touching me, like laid on my chest. it was just easier to have her in bed with me. but now im trying to get her in a crib and she just wont go. even now im sat next to her. stroking her face so she knows im still here. dnt know if im doing the right thing or not? help!
2007-09-03 10:21:53 · 26 answers · asked by jada-jess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is fine. Does it feel right? Does the baby sleep well? Do you? Then it is perfectly fine.
Our son had a beautiful crib- and never used it. He had such severe colic that we slept with him. He is now 10 and we have such a bond with him still.
Our daughter never had a crib- she is 1 now and we decided not to waste the money on one since our son spent the night with us from the beginning.
How to do it safely???
-They now sell cosleepers that go right in the bed with you and the baby. We used one for awhile with our baby because she wanted to be absolutely right next to us.
-put your mattresses on the floor and flush right against the wall. The baby should sleep between you and the wall for a long, long time. Daddies are not cognizant of a baby there- and may roll on it. Mommies- without drugs or alcohol are better in-tuned to their babies.
-Our son was in his own bed by 2.5 years of age- and went easily- all we did was place his old crib mattress on the floor right next to our bed and told him he needed his own place- and he stayed there for 4 months, then we had him help us set up his new room and he went in, no problems at all. He also has autism- so this was a huge deal for him to do so easily.
We listened to all the naysayers yell at us for sleeping with him, and I nearly listened. To me, it is easier teaching a 2 year old to sleep in his own room than a young baby to sleep alone- when ALL they crave is to be close.
so- as a newborn- an in-the-bed sleeper was what she slept in.
-at 4 months, she began to sleep on a pillow- lengthways to keep her close.
-At 12 months, she uses her own pillow.
-never leave your baby in bed unattended.
-never sleep with a baby on a waterbed.
-never sleep with a baby in your bed if you have been drinking or taking meds that make you sleepy.
Have fun and enjoy your baby. They are only little for a blink of an eye.
2007-09-03 14:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My baby slept in bed with us from about three months to seven months when we ran out of room.
I started it because I needed more sleep and it disrupted my sleep less than getting out of bed to feed him.
He was going through a time of waking ever hour and feeding when I knew it was for comfort or out of habit rather than needing food....so I made the switch to the crib and it went great!
This may be right for you.....for some time...if you don't want to have baby so far away then keep her with you, unless you are drinking or taking meds...
Make sure your mattress is firm, your pillows are blocking the edge and you put baby on top of covers.
Enjoy this special bonding time....
2007-09-03 17:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by babyrhee2007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I slept with my son from day one. He is 9 months old and prefers to sleep by himself now. Don't worry about it. She needs you and wants to be close for security. You're fine sleeping with her; she won't stay in your bed "forever" either. Trying to make her sleep by herself right now is probably just going to cause you both frustration and sleep deprivation. Seriously, taking the "easy way out" on this one is all fine!! If you want to take her back into your bed, go for it. Just make sure it's safe and she won't fall off or get trapped or anything.
I slept with my son on the mattress only, flat on the floor. I put the boxspring and frame somewhere else so he wouldn't fall out, and we never had a problem with it. Just do what comes natural, and don't force anything.
2007-09-03 18:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by E.B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is what works for you and your family, then it is fine. Do what is best for you. My son is 10 months old and he has slept in bed with us since birth. I am breastfeeding and it makes sleeping easier because he wakes about 2 times at night to nurse and I can just latch him on and go back to sleep. He also sleeps best knowing I am right there next to him. Being close to me is a need of his and I don't want to keep that from him.
Again, do what works best for your family.
2007-09-03 17:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by iamhis0 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My one year olds still sleep with me and my four year old only moved recently into her own room. It's a personal matter, but most babies throughout history have slept with their mothers for safety. She's hard-wired to have someone to sleep with. It doesn't interfere with my sex life, (I can have sex in a million places or just roll my sleepy bundles over to make space) and it doesn't keep me awake when they want to eat. For me, co-sleeping is quite beneficial. You need to consider why you feel you can't do it anymore and then see if the alternative (crib sleeping) is actually a cure to your problem.
2007-09-03 17:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by M L 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Walmart has a great product called The First Years Close and Secure Sleeper, which would be perfect for you to use. This would prevent you from having to get up all the time to breastfeed her, plus you won't risk rolling over on her.
2007-09-03 17:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mama2Mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Co-sleeping with a newborn that is breastfed was the ONLY way I got any sleep for 6 months. My little one is almost 2, and has been in her own bed since she began to sit up and became mobile.
It is not wrong, it is quite common and healthy.
2007-09-03 17:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In Australia they are very against the idea of sleeping with baby in your bed ,they even warn expectant mothers of the dangers .I don,t really know of many people who do that here . But good luck ..5 children.
2007-09-04 07:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your gut feeling... that's your maternal instinct. If it feels right to keep your daughter close to you, in bed with you... then continue to do it. Many Americans aren't comfortable with or used to "co-sleeping", because it's not what they were raised with and because they hear the "warnings" that it's dangerous at times. But I know A LOT of parents who co-sleep.
Do what you know is best for your little girl. Period.
2007-09-03 17:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by April Rose 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
hi my mom has five kids and weve all slept in bed iwht her till we were like 2-3 and started using toddler beds ..it is perfectly fine to do that i have my 9 month old daughter in bed with me and i plan on keeping it that way because i breastfeed and i dont think id feel right having her in a seperate room
2007-09-03 17:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by ibaby8_6_05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋