My boyfriend of 9 months, he dump me because I'm going 2 keep this baby... so he says he's only 22 years old, he doesnt want to have a baby right now, he is still in school... I'm 6years older than he is, I love him very much!
He left me because I won't have an abortion. I already have a 5 year old daughter & I just cant see myself having an abortion, I had an abortion before I had my daughter & I still cry every time I think about it & he knew this before we started having sex! ; (
Do you think he will change ? & what should I do? is he really too young for me 2 even start a family with him?
I miss him so much!
This is my sec. Question for whoever can relate to this...
I am almost 7 weeks pregnant this friday (sept. 7th) I just found that I have an ovarian cyst on my left side, lately I been very worried that my child is going 2 be born with some type of problems, My belly been moving alot & that's what has me worried! I do have a GYN APP. if u had this pro. let me kno
2007-09-03 09:56:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your boyfriend sounds like a real schmuck!!!! It's not like you got PREGNANT all by yourself.... HE WAS THERE AS WELL... I hate these guys that wanna PLAY but refuse to PAY... well, For YOUR sake, if you want the baby I'm GLAD you didn't go along with the boyfriend and have an abortion---a woman should NEVER have an abortion because SOMEONE ELSE WANTS HER TO HAVE IT... It is YOUR body and you and YOU ALONE must make any decisions... HOWEVER, no matter what, he is LIABLE for child support for this baby no matter WHAT HE SAYS.... like I said, he showed no care in using PROTECTION and therefore, he is equally and LEGALLY responsible for the child support of this baby until it is 18 years old or 21 if in college... Now, I wouldn't worry too much about the cyst until you speak to your GYN Doctor...it could be anything and it could be NOTHING...let HIM tell you but ask him WHATEVER you need to ask... Good luck with the baby... and tell that ex boyfriend that he has a LOT of growing up to do and should know by now that CONDOMS are a LOT cheaper then CHILD SUPPORT
2007-09-03 10:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had an ovarian cyst and mine actually popped because I did not know what it was. It is very painful when it pops, but then that it is. You don't get any medication or anything. They put me on birth control to control any more from growing. You obviously can not be on birth control if you are pregnant and I am not sure how the cyst will affect the baby. I can not imagine that the cyst would damage the child because the cyst is on your ovaries and the baby is protected in the uterus! If the cyst pops and you are in a lot of pain though it may stress the baby. My advice is to let nature run its course. I have a 5 year old and I had an abortion after I had him because his father left me and he was only 1 and I was pregnant. I regret it for many reasons, but when you know a mother's love already I think it is harder. Talk to your doctor, but I would try to keep the baby, go through the pain when it pops- it might not even pop, and take the guy to court for child support! He was old enough to be having sex then he is old enough to support his child!
2007-09-03 10:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cyst is probably a "functional cyst" meaning that it is one from which an egg arises. You doctor may want to keep an eye on it with an ultrasound just to see if it resolves and this can take several months. It should have no affect on the embryo at all.
As far as the age difference between you and your boyfriend it is probably going to be a choice between the baby and you having an abortion. But I would not plan on him being there for you. Either way he has made it clear that he is not interested in having a family with you. When you are 22, there is a lot of growing up to be done. Unfortunately both of you made the choice to be parents when you didn't use birth control. The question is , will you be the one who stands up and takes responsibility or not. It is doubtful that this guy is going to. If he is willing to leave, knowing that you are carrying his child then I wouldn't bet my life on him being there to be a dad.
2007-09-03 10:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy is not worth your time, and if he doesn't care about his unborn child now, he will not be a good enough father when the child is born. You, your daughter and your unborn child DO NOT deserve to have an immature man like that in your lives. You can make it work as a single Mom of two..there are a lot of people and agencies that will help you through it. Your family is better off with one parent, than two parents where one is a jerk.
In regards to the cyst, I have had reoccuring ovarian cysts, which have never been any sort of threat. Having one during pregnancy will not harm your baby. It is an anomolie on the outside of your ovary that will not affect the baby's growth in your uterus. Also, ovarian cysts cause most problems and pain during ovulation, and since you are pregnant, you won't be ovulating and so it shouldn't bother you.
Good luck hun!
2007-09-03 10:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if he did not want 2 have a child he should have kept it wrapped up. he is an a** & he will resent u. have the baby & make him pay Ur child support. if U need a good reason 2 have an abortion, u could consider the cyst as an excuse. the biggest problem it will cause u is pain through out the pregnancy. ask ur dr. what they think. then if u decide 2 have an abortion make ur stupid boyfriend pay the $400 to get it & then do not get back w/ him ever. tell him u can not be w/ sum1 who would be such an inconsiderate jerk. find sum1 who would like 2 have a family w/ u & Ur daughter. sum1 Ur age or older would be a good start.
2007-09-03 10:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by katwaxr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to worry about the cyst-even if it bursts, it should have no ill effect on your baby-just be sure to see the doctor and they will probably put you on an antibiotic.
As for the situation with your ex-don't have an abortion to get him back, please. I am absolutely pro-choice, but that really isn't a good enough reason, and I think it would be something you regret. Do what you think is right for YOU-which seems to be keeping the baby. He may come around, and he may not. You can't hinge your decision on him only. You have to decide what is right for you, your baby, and your 5 year old. You are already a mother, so you know you are capable already. Yes, he is young, but hopefully, he will come around once he realizes you won't budge. If not, that is his loss-children are SUCH an amazing blessing. Whether or not he visits, you can still get child support. I know this is a tough time for you, but you will get through it-we always manage to somehow!
2007-09-03 10:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not very knowledgeable about an ovarian cyst, except that I had one, 2cm and it went away on its own. The dr.s were very low-key about it.
I applaud your determination to keep the baby despite the pressure from your bf to abort. Possibly in his life this is not the right time. I understand that. He should have prevented it.
You, on the other hand, are prepared to raise another child. You have one child already, so being a mommy is old hat to you.
I think if bf isn't mature enough to deal with the consequences of his actions, he's not good daddy material. If he changes his mind and comes running back, I wouldn't take him back without a ring on my finger. This guy broke up with you, rather than trying to work things out. You need to make him clear that commitment is the rule of the future. Nothing breaks us up. Choose it or lose it.
Congratulations on your coming little one!
He or she will be born into a loving family.
TX Mom
not an expert
2007-09-03 10:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ovarian cyst shouldn't hurt your baby. Your boyfriend is a loser if he's willing to do the deed and then not take responsibility for it. You already have a child so you know that what you have growing inside you is a life. From your question I can tell that you want this baby. Don't do something that you will regret and have to live with the rest of your life because your boyfriend is a jerk. Let your baby live. At the very least give birth and then give it up for adoption.He or she has the right to live. God bless!!
2007-09-03 10:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by BERT 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never had this problem ( cyst plus pregnancy ) so I will not address that. What I will adress is your first question... NO your boyfreind ( actually ex boyfreind ) will not change. He is a cad, a jerk, a simpleton, but at least he was honest. He never should have had sex with you if he knew if you got pregnant you were going to keep it and he did n't want that - and he obviously didn't do a lot to protect himself from getting you pregnant, that makes him an idiot and not living up to his responsibility makes him a pig....
But you on the other hand are older although obviously not more mature... You chose to date a guy significantly younger ( why would you think he wanted to settle down and have an instant family? ) You have had now three unplanned pregnancies ( at least I am guessing the first was unplanned and since I don't hink anyone plans to have an abortion I have to assume that one was also unplanned ) and now you are delusional enough to ask this question about your little boyfriend. Yes he is too young for you, he is too young to be a father if he says so...You are an idiot for loving him. You are an idiot for getting yourself and the daughter you already have into this situation. That girl needs some stability more than you need your messed up sex life that leaves you with fatherless babies. Grow the hell up. Educate yourself and/or get your tubes tied after you have this baby... And don't ask the state to pay for the rearing of your children that is your job. I am sick to death of women like yourself whinning about men and how they wronged you...take some personal responsibility for tis situation. Set some kind of example for your children... You should be embarrassed. This isn't about religious morals or ideals, I have no problem with sex outside of marriage or single mothers.... But clearly you are not mentally or emotionally and I am going to guess finacially equipped to deal with your lifestyle choices, but it isn't just about you and your little broken heart, it s about these children you keep bringing into the world.
2007-09-03 10:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men say that because they are worried. I got pregnant at the age of 17 and my now husband is 23. We have 2 children and they are 15 months apart. It's a struggle with balancing family and personal time but we make it work. Tell him he can dump you after the baby is born. Once he takes a look at the beautiful baby he wont want to leave.
2007-09-03 10:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by kleja36 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋