I am 29 and I love being single but my mom tells me that I have to get married at some point in life. She also told me I have to have two kids for some reason. How much longer am I allowed to enjoy my single life until I am forced into getting married (which I don't want to do)?
2007-09-03 09:53:12 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would love to be single my whole life; I'm happy being alone. My mom thinks otherwise.
2007-09-03 09:53:49 · update #1
You never have to get married if you don't want to. If you look at marriage that way, and did get married, it wouldn't last long anyway. Don't ever let anyone push you into getting married. Marriage is a great thing if you are with someone you love and they love you. Then if you both want to make that commitment, it will be great.
2007-09-03 09:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that knows best. If your happy the way things are , then stay that way. You do not have to have a family untill your ready.. Some couples do not even want kids. Do not make the mistake of getting married unless your ready. Your mother wants grand kids, but you need to be happy first. I think around 30 is a good time but wait, if your not really ready. Some people do not even get married. Do what you think best when the time is right. Good Luck Pem
2007-09-03 10:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married if you dont want to. You don't even have to have children if you don't want to. People get married because they love each other and want to make that commitment of being together long term and sharing their lives together. Having children because they want to expand their family and love. You don't do those things because you have to. The fact your mom wants you to get married and have children is something parents who are old school see as the "right thing to do" but in this day and age,if your not ready or have not found the person you want to do that with,then please for the sake of divorce and abortions and neglected children don't do it!!!! Now,if you feel like you want to have these things in your life and you, yourself feel incomplete without it,then by all means you find yourself someone who you feel is perfect for you and that you want to spend your life with. There is no time limit, you like the single life then by all means enjoy it.
Let mom know,when your ready to settle down if your ready,you will do it, and she will be the first to know of your plans.(moms love hearing that)
2007-09-03 10:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Himynameis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u live in India, then I think for guys, it's thirty five, but girls, it's thirty. IF in the states, u can find other people who are single at any age and marry when u feel like it. U shouldn't get married for ur parents. IT should be ur decision. I know ur mom might say otherwise, but if this is not the case, when ur married, problems will arise. U dont sound like u want to get married at all...so don't. But if u want to open up to the possibility, go for it..and just stay open to it. People say it's best to have kids early, but I think if u can and have energy, any age is ok...just be sure not to be too old since u might want to live to see them graduate college. But ur as young as u feel. Plus, if u don't want to get married, ur kids will see it too, and family life will suck for u and all involved. Might as well stay single instead of ruining lives.
Ur mom only wants two kids from u? Lucky, mine wants atleaest ten from me. good luck on this. Pray about it, talk to olthers about it, and see if marriage could work for u. It's work, but love just makes it easier to work through problems. So some personal reflection will be needed from u. Do this before marriage for u and for ur future partner and future family. Best wishes
2007-09-03 10:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm 32 and single ....You don't have to marry until you're ready and the person is right .....getting married because your mom wants you too can create a problem enjoy being single when you meet the right one she wont have to tell you to get married you will want too...Children thats a personal choice one child is ok 2 children is ok 0 is ok its something you and your future husband will determine not your mom and anyone else ....
2007-09-03 10:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, who's life is this your mother's or YOUR'S? If you don't want to get married don't get married. No one can FORCE you to do something you don't WANT to do so if you do get married it will be by your own CHOICE. I SHOULD have stayed single but married for financial reasons...neither he nor I are "cut out" for marriage and now that we're divorced neither one of us has any plans to remarry. I'm happily single and plan on staying that way no matter what other people have to say about my life. Because it is MY life.
2007-09-03 11:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ever get married if you don't want to. I know at least 5 different people that got married because it "seemed like the right thing to do." It's your life, not your mom's and although the Norman Rockwell picture of grandma with her grandkids making cookies is what she wants, she's not seeing the whole picture. She's leaving out the most important part....YOU.
If you don't feel that marriage is right for you, then don't get married.
2007-09-03 10:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life, not your Mom's or anyone else. If you want to stay single the rest of your life and know that will make you happy then that is what you should do. If you live your life any other way then what is true for you, you will be unhappy and so will the people around you.
2007-09-03 09:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been married. My mom tells me that I need to try it just once, but I just can't do it. You don't need to get married and have kids to be happy. All your mom is trying to tell you is that by getting married and having 2 kids, you will live what she thinks would be a happy and fulfilling life. What she forgot to tell you is about the fighting, the diapers, the fighting, the financial difficulties, the fighting.....etc. You need to do what makes you happy. Not what your mom thinks will make you happy. She has good intentions though.
2007-09-03 10:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happy being single then why get married?
Get married if you meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Let me guess, your friends and family are always feeling sorry for you because you do not have a date or always trying to set you up with someone..
2007-09-03 09:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋