why me????

Question

it seems like everywhere i go, i hear people talking about divorce, or spliting up, or moving on, or moving out, and lawsuits, and restraining orders, and even murder!!!!! what has happened in the world??? will someone please explain this to me?

Answer 1

It is what the world has become...desensitized to what marriage really is about and to the commitment it takes to make a marriage work.

Answer 2

Well, I guess now we have better prospects in life and easier ways to get to them, we are not taking the time to think and try anymore.
Before when people didn't have a choice, then, it was marriage till death do us part, but nowadays, it's like people are over compensating for their lack of freedom.
Why would you go and work all day, waking up early, doing a job you dislike, to earn some money when you might earn the same staying at home?
So, instead of finding some compromise, some people who have no reason not to work prefer to just take it easy.
Before children were ignored, invisible, now, whatever they do, or the way they behave, in school or at home, you'd better watch what you say to them.
I mean the problem is a lack of effort; People have it too easy these days and are not interested in trying anymore.
People can even eat themselves to death while in some countries people are dying of starvation.
The truth is, people cannot restrain themselves. They do what pleases them because they can and until they can't anymore.
That's very sad isn't it?!

Answer 3

I know, I hear it too. What I've learned, is that it takes all kinds of people to make the world go around. And that can be looked at however...=) Some people can't live with other people and people who act like trash explain the restraining orders and the murders. People with low or no education or parents that didn't care to raise them when they were growing up, create the type of circumstances you've listed above.

Answer 4

well, as the world goes round each year, more and more bad things start happening, like murder, divorce, abusing people, rebellious kids, etc. all we can do in this world is be street smart. that is, we cant be weaklings in the big bad world...we just have to make the best of it, and know the right from wrong, and do what ever it is that we can to keep on living and being happy.

Answer 5

I will tell you about MY marriage. My wife is not what she used to be, like fine wine she flavors with age and becomes even more delightful, sensual, and arousing. We have become ONE in marriage because we THOUGHT we loved each other. We now know it was infatuation and lustful excitement. Over the years LOVE HAS grown and we've come to realize that we DO LOVE each other. We are a very RARE couple in that we are happy to have each other and there is no one more important to me in my life, not even myself. I never knew I would feel this way and I never realized that marriage would be like this. We over the years, have made many compromises, and sacrifices for each other and for our off spring. THIS is what marriage is SUPPOSED to be like. Very few, these days, are willing to take the "or for worse" only the "for better" after the vows are said and life begins.

Answer 6

This world isn't what it used to... There isn't alot of family values anymore, now it's more about being succesfull in life and most of the times it's not about maintaining a home or creating a family...it's about being succesful even if it means being single or getting divorces. There is also no more commitments with God in keeping fidelities to partners anymore. It's sad but true. Hey I'm in the social services field but would love to be a stay at home mom... but I also want to have a big home, nice car, nice clthes and vacations...that doesn't mean I'm looking to divorce if my husband gets in the way of my dreams, because my husband and I still negotiate... and alot of couples do not want to negotiate anymore... I got used to alot of his ideas and he got used to mine... and if we didn't want to comply with our different ideas then we look at how can we meet in the middle to make things work. I got married with the idea that it's for life, not with the idea that if it doesn't work there's divorce. I wish you luck.

Answer 7

i honestly dont think its changed much in last 30 years...you are just at an age where you are aware of it and are sensitive to it. yes the world is cruel and hard on marriages...just be strong..thats all any of us can do.

Answer 8

I think they all need a hug.