My father passed away in February..from lung cancer and a bad heart..I've taken care of him for a good part of my life...and i'm still pretty young (23)..however..i can't get over him being gone...i lost track of work..tho i still work at the same place and they were all sympathic with me...but i'm finding it hard to gain motovation to go on. i know i have to take care of my mom and brother..but i miss him really bad and i still have memories that come to me daily..about stories he told me and...i'm dying inside..i'm so overcome with grief that i'm kind of sick to my stomach...i've gained weight...lost touch with friends...and to top it off..my boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me the day i got back from his burial...so i've not had anything intimate either...i'm not even talking about sex..but someone i can lean on and just relax with..any thoughts you can send my way...i'd be much grateful. thanks again...and i hope you all have a great day...and fruitful days in the future.
2007-09-03 09:03:37 · 8 answers · asked by dreaming_constantly 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Only time makes grief easier. But it helps to put death of a loved one in the proper place. Just remember that your father would not want you unhappy and would want you to live a full and productive life. Remember him fondly but don't dwell on the loss but how lucky you were to have someone so special for such a time. Try to get very busy. Call up your friends, join an exercise place, start dieting and get yourself healthy again, get your clothes in order, update your work skills. Your bf was not a friend. A friend would not desert you under those circumstances so he is a thoughtless jerk. You need to go out and find new friends. Join clubs, go to college, just keep your mind busy so you do not have time to dwell on the loss. When thoughts of your father come to you, try to smile and remember him fondly, and then move on. You have to live every minute of your life. Life is too short and time is limited. You are starting over so there will be so many opportunities and changes. Go for it. You're a good, sweet person to care so deeply and you deserve a wonderful life. . . but you have to go out and get it. Much luck and happiness.
2007-09-03 09:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loss of anyone can be a difficult thing to overcome, but sometimes you just have to move on. Life is going to go on with or without, and I am sure that your father would want you to keep going strong. Besides, you said yourself, you still have memories.
2007-09-03 09:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving is natural and it may last in a fairly intense way for a year or more.
But if your physical and emotional health are being ruined by grief, you may need counseling. And there is no shame or weakness in asking for help. We all go through things like this.
2007-09-03 09:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by fredrick z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad passe away from lung cancer too,
Ya know what I do....when things are rough, I talk to him.
It seems when things cant get worse,,,,,soem weird way he helps,,,,I have a dream about him....
may sound strange, but talk to him and tell him how your feeling, I beleive out loved ones are around and hear us.
just open your mind and give him a chance.
By the way....you dont need the boyfriend that broke it off,
pretty shallow...
There is one for you out there....just focus on what you need to do to get out of the rut...you will see clearly
2007-09-03 09:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by ideame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young , time will heal all wounds , your boyfriend , if he left you , well that is not your fault . Take advantage of finding young likeminded people like yourself on the net . We are all connected somehow in cyberspace.
2007-09-03 09:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just lost my mother in Jan. 06.and i felt that was the last day of my life.......But you need to pray alot...talk to your father as if he were there........and tell him how much you miss him....then tell him you need to let go of the grief and find your true friend who will listen to you,,,preferbly some one who knew your father...after 6 months, I was joking about the pranks I pulled on mom and her reaction to them..........God Bless.
2007-09-03 09:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by dorton girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of happy times
2007-09-03 09:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Vi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 10:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋