2007-09-03 08:59:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Oh no... I don`t have problems with that, just some professors occassionally...
2007-09-03 09:18:17 · update #1
It's good that you're aware of the problems that this entails; this is already half of your solution. As other people stated, it helps to compliment them and be assertive. This is achieved by always keeping your goal in mind. If you focus on your problem, the one you want to solve, you'll handle it with more effect. I tend to be impulsive myself, and I can understand it's not easy to stay calm when you know you have a point, but it will be better for you in the long run if you stick to the facts and stay away from impulsive urges.
NO personal approaches - keep your complaint or whatever it is you're dealing with, on the professional ground. Make sure you put in a word or two how you really admire/appreciate/look up to the person's work, and after that get to the point by saying that you need their help with this, and that you're not in any way challenging their authority. I've never ever had a problem with any of my professors or superiors, but it wasn't calculated, it was simply a result of my outlook on the world. Surely you have more important things to do in life than trying to change some professor, because change them you never will, but get in trouble - quite likely.... so why bother? Use your time&energy wisely and don't waste it on secondary things. Focus on your studies and your goal - self-development. If you meet great, important teachers on this road, treat them with respect, if not - forget them and move on:)
2007-09-04 08:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just be you. Don't be afraid to tell your boss that you agree or disagree. Don't be afraid to explain your point of view. We are all entitled to our opinions. Just keep it professional, don't attack. A good way to open the conversation might be to ask why they do the thing that bothers you and to state that it really bothers you. Communicate! Being an employee does not mean you do not have a right to speak your opinions. If you can't solve the problem with communication, you should think about moving on.
2007-09-03 21:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing about people in positions of power is that have need to have their ego's fluffed every now and again, so then, what might be thought of as a quick or witty response in defense of yourself, might indeed be permanently insulting to someone above you. Your best bet is to do things that make him look better without indirectly baiting attention to yourself from others, giving your boss a larger then life appearance is usually the best attack for rising in status among insecurities in the work place.
2007-09-03 16:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by zacariah s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully. If you are asked to do the impossible or are treated badly, then you have to stand up to that person or it will just get worse. My usual approach is to explain why I can't get something done in the time frame and then ask their advice about how I might be able to get it done sooner or faster. It puts it on them and you're asking for their help. They usually have no answer and so back up a bit. Just always use your manners and give them the respect they deserve as your boss. Finesse it.
2007-09-03 16:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by towanda 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By avoiding blame, "perhaps it should be done this way, because doing so would be beneficial in ____ way" instead of
"you're an idiot", by arguing on point, and being tactful, and speaking matter of fact-ly, but not coldly.
Tis tricky :)
2007-09-03 16:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By beginning with the words, "With due respect" I would like to address this matter with you.
2007-09-03 21:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess it depends on the situation...is this person belittling you or making you feel inferior? there are ways to say hey i am a person too...i do the best i can to effectively do my job and you are making me feel inadequate...if there is something that i am doing wrong could we please discuss ways i can improve...by forcing this person to confront whatever it is about you that causes them to treat you unfairly...you are making them aware of how they are making you feel...good luck
2007-09-03 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay objective, factual, professional and assertive (not aggressive) and keep your body language relaxed. :)
2007-09-04 00:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by lifesaclassroom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
compliment him whilst doing it!lol
2007-09-03 16:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋