I don't understand....it's like he just doesn't want to get along. He's nice long enough for us to have sex then right back to being mean. What is going on??? He tells me he loves me at least 10 times a day..but then why try to argue over stupid things? I feel trapped and so unhapy...what do i do?
2007-09-03 08:43:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we spend so much time together. we recently just had our second little boy....and mostly we fight about how rough he is with the oldest one who is only two years old...last night he almost pulled his arm out of the socket pickihg him up too roughly...and he doesnt' see anything wrong with it.
2007-09-03 08:58:25 · update #1
ok...ingoring him seemed to do the trick....
2007-09-03 09:50:40 · update #2
It appears that perhaps you both need to sit down with a professional to iron out your differences before your situation becomes unfixable. Good Luck!
2007-09-03 08:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is up with him, he's getting the sex from you, but the problem hasn't gone away or been dealt with, it's just swept under the rug long enough for him to meet his own needs.
It's time to have a talk with him, his attitude needs addressing, maybe he's stressed about money, lack of it, unhappy about work, something, it's time to talk and no sex till it's out in the open.
2007-09-03 08:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
men. There a species all by themselves. He's trying to find an excuse to act the way he does. Next he'll start to do whatever he wants and blame it on you. He's playing mind games. Husband or no husband. He's making you look like the bad guys so he can have a so called reason to treat you like **&& and then still get what he wants (sex). Trust me its an all too common thing.
2007-09-03 08:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out of this marriage. It will only get worse. Don't add kids into it either. Go talk to a divorce lawyer and find out your rights. Then make your plans to leave. You deserve to have a husband that loves you......really loves you and not just tells you a hollow "I love you."
2007-09-03 08:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl i am going through the same problem. My man treats me so good when he wants to have sex. But then he argues with me for the stupidest things. It irritates me so bad that i do not even want to sleep next to him at night and i sleep downstairs. i am getting tired of it. You should just confront him why does he act like that and just ignore him do not have sex with him. If he keeps acting like that your just going to explode one day.
2007-09-03 09:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop doing the stupid little things that make him unhappy.
It's funny how women tend to think that if a thing isn't important to them, then it isn't important, and end up calling it stupid. Why don't you try changing your perspective. Heaven forbid that you could be doing anything to contribute to it.
2007-09-03 08:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
when he gets mad at you, ask him this: what are you afraid of"? all negative emotions are based out of some fear, and it'll blow his mind. he won't even know how to answer it, but it will make him think. he sounds unhappy and is having a hard time figuring himself out. call him on it and quit having sex with him until he earns it.
2007-09-03 08:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he's hiding something from you, is kind of stupid to argue over little things..their must be something wrong...people dont change that fast
2007-09-03 08:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try telling him. This probley can't realy compair but my best guy friend is just like that...but i know he cares...i think most guys are that way.
2007-09-03 08:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he loves you he wouldnt be mean...thats a problem if he is being mean..just talk to him..dont have sex untill things are worked out ...jus talk to him and tell him how you feel calmly
2007-09-03 08:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by exoxe2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋