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for those of us whos parents or parent is still alive do you help them financially.i do i have given my mother hundreds this year,and i wish i could of done more

Answer 1

Every one does what they do
what I did was move back home when I was unattached
and with a great job spent practically nill cause dad said if for instance I took them some place for dinner that if I spent my money that I would have to pay inheritance taxes on his!

It not only allowed us to become closer friends instead of parent/son
but it was allowing the two to live out their final days in their own home
both died in my arms 1 by 1
it is probably one of the best investments that I ever made on my mental health and well being

you only get one mom and one dad
and when they are gone
there is no thing more you can do


being an orphan at whatever age is not so sweet as being able to see them smile

Answer 2

My mom has Alzheimer's and is in a lock down ward in a nursing home. I am her conservator.

Until she became strange, she would help me out. I have helped her out by buying clothes, dinners, permanents, a cushion for her wheelchair, skin care, etc. The nursing home takes all her money from social security and my dad's pension money. They only leave her $35 a month.

She is getting worse all the time so I don't take her out to dinner anymore. I did buy her some new shoes a couple of weeks ago. I blow up photos and tape them to her wall so she can see familiar faces. But that's about it.

All I can give her anymore is my love and attention. It makes her so happy! It really does, she gets so excited and happy to see me. All the money in the world can't buy that.

Answer 3

My remaining parent (my father) is very well off...he needs no help from anyone. He and my mother spent their life living carefully ( they did live well, but not foolishly), were successful, and were very happy. I wish him a very long life, for I love my father very much. I suppose I will inherit his trust some day, but today, I am more than happy enough with what I have done in life. In reality, we need only a roof over our heads, money to pay bills, and money to buy food. More than that is unnecessary for happiness.

Answer 4

I am happily in the financial position now to make sure my mom gets just about everything she wants. I can't remodel her house, or take her on a trip around the world, but I am able to help her stay comfortable -- she never wants for anything and never has to worry where its going to come from.

Although we didn't have much money growing up, my mother never let me feel the effects of that. I got everything I needed, and most of what I wanted. I'm glad I can repay her for that!

Answer 5

I am not in the financial position to give her much, but yes I have. I so wish I could do more. There are also times I take groceries to her, and buy her clothes or shoes. I try to the best I can, and feel that should.

Answer 6

I myself am not in a financial postion to do so. She will be 86 this year and still gets around on her own. Is living in a retirement apt. I know I will not live as long as her, she is just a stubburn old Irish gal. I also live about 100 miles away, and my 4 younger brothers live in her general area, and closer to her if she needs anything.

Answer 7

I don't have parents living but I have children that give me money. I tell them not to as I really don't need it and when I find it where they stuck it I use it and this causes me to have things that I don't need. I feel that I will get use to this and then when it stops I have a problem getting use to doing without. Why do you do it?

Answer 8

Well, since we live together we share the expenses. So in a way yes. We split the mortgage and utilities. I am sure we both help each other financially this way, and both our pensions can go further than if we lived by ourselves.

Good for you in helping your mommy. : )

Answer 9

My parents are in their 80s, but they don't need help financially. I do help them in every other way I can, with work around their home or by taking them places they need or want to go. I want to do all I can for them, because they've always been there for me no matter what.

Answer 10

it depends on the situation but a mother or father that has done the very best they could for you the skys the limit but if you've done the best you can you should'nt have bad feelings about that.