I have already had sex before. It was a real mistake and am not the type of person who trusts easy. So my question is it normal to be scared to try again with someone and I'm scared to make love my sister told me it is but idk what do u think am 16 I don't have a new boyfriend but I want one I don't plan on haivng sex. 4 a while after what happened. I'm I weird to u about this?
2007-09-03 08:05:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hi hun, No It is totally not weird to be hesitant for the next time you have sex again!
I have only ever had sex this 1 guy and it's the guy I am going to marry on Friday. Some of my friends say don't you want to try other men.... or don't you feel your missing out.. stuff like that.. But I can honestly say that I don't.
And I am pround that I havn't slept arround.
But what I do feel is that if you are in a relationship and you feel comfortable enough to have sex each time then that is fine.
It is your body take care of it! Enjoy being single for a while and as some of the other ppl have said concentrate on your hobbies and school work (waaaaay more important than boys)
Make sure that you 100% okay with having sex next time and take as long as you like!
2007-09-03 08:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by charliewarlieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are definitely not weird! What is weird is all the people having sex when they are in their teens. Focus on school, hobbies, friends, finding out who you are and what your dreams for the future are. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or a nursing home. Join some organizations. Take up a new activity or sport. When you are 19 or 20 that's the earliest to start having romantic relationships. And my opinion is the point of dating will be to find someone to settle down with and get married and have a life together. No need for sex until you're married. At the very least please wait until you're a few years older and in a serious relationship with someone you can trust to have sex again.
2007-09-03 15:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by cowabunga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex again until you are really sure about it and the person you're with. If the new guy won't stay with you unless you have sex, you don't need him anyway, because he wasn't interested in you, just the sex. Take your time....you're too young to be having sex anyway. You don't have to have sex to prove anything to anyone. Sex should come MUCH later in a relationship so if you have a new boyfriend, you shouldn't even be thinking about having sex with him right now. You should never have sex with someone until you trust them. If you feel like the other time was a mistake, then vow to not repeat the mistake.
2007-09-03 15:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweety you are not weird. It's perfectly natural to be scared. In fact it's always just a little bit scary to be with a new person/partner because you don't know how they will treat you once the clothes are off.
Remember this is YOUR LIFE and any boy that comes along is only in your life for the time being and it's up to YOU how long he stays in your life. So if he want to stay in your life awhile then he needs to obey the rules you set for yourself and if you are uncomfortable about sex and need to take your time with it then that is a rule he will have to accept if he really means it when he says he loves you.
2007-09-03 15:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by DanceCat Squiggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're not weird at all. You're only 16 and you should definitely wait if you feel that you aren't ready for it again. I think it's very mature of you to realize that the first time was a mistake. I hope you find a new boyfriend who will respect your decision to take things slowly.
2007-09-03 15:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HY you can have sex any time you fill you are o .k .with that person, safe But you are not in any race do not think you are weird! I think you just respect you and that is normal Sex is not driving you can have sex after a wile you are not ready or you do not find the write person yet AND THAT'S VERY NORMAL Any time be safe have condoms!And do not be in the hurry!Sex is not a stile or something to be popular about!
2007-09-03 17:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by emina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have issues revolving sex if your first time wasn't exactly story-book worthy. Relax, don't put so much pressure on yourself but most importantly, don't let him pressure you. Let it be your decision when the time is right and you feel comfortable. You are not being weird about this at ALL.
2007-09-03 15:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by fastfinal137 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young.
2007-09-03 16:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Godiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not!
2007-09-03 15:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by CURA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're right, it was a real mistake cause you're only 16! Duh!
2007-09-03 15:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋