I hate that my husband is into porn and i feel helpless about it. He says it's a guy thing. Is it? Do all women feel this way? Do all women dislike porn?
2007-09-03 08:04:31 · 17 answers · asked by bengalchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not allow your husband the excuse that its a guy thing! by the time a man gets married and committed to a woman he should be more mature and have respect for the special woman in his life. What the hell is he looking for that isn't right there in front of him and in reality? Some men can get obsessed with it and don't realize how we look at their character as decent women in their lives and how they cause a wife to feel over it. What would a husband feel if we needed to look at all men in this way and compare what they haven't got to the well blessed men that they are not. These women in porn do not depict what true intimacy is between a husband and wife. It is nothing but gutter garbage that men engage in and is a sick and sordid reality from a bunch of women with sick and messed up morals that derive attention from men in the worse way possible!! There are a lot of very screwed up people in the world and porn pretty much displays that they are very high on the list ..and so are the people that get their pleasures off when watching it. I would stand up to your husband and give him the ultimatum and he can choose to understand it or not but it would either be me or porn and thats the bottom line.
2007-09-03 08:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you should not be mad that your husband loOKs at porn. It is ok as long as it does not effect his life. Everything in balance! All women do not dislike porn. I like watching porn movies with my husband once in a while. Just for something different. It gets me going!
2007-09-03 13:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mad? No, jealous, maybe? My philosophy of it is, if he has me, why does he need to watch that stuff, are they prettier than me, perkier boobs, etc etc. He knew I wasn't into that stuff thats why he watched it alone, but I would take it wrong, so finally I agreed to watch it with him, weird at first, because wow, those women are soldiers, they enjoy whatever comes their way...Geeezus! however, watching pornos does make things a lil' kinkier, why? I have no idea. Thats my question i'll have to post next... haha. So from here-on-out, if he gets caught watching PORN, he's out the door, 2 reasons, 1, If I'm ok with it, theres NO reason to sneak watch it, to me that would only mean he is a closet (wacker) or pervert.. Number 2 reason, " I wanted to watch it too!" ha. Hope this answer helped.. I'm curous. So the bottom line is, if you dislike it and have chosen NOT to let him watch them, NOT even together, then he needs to get rid of them (send to me) and respect your feelings, if it continues, he has chosen porn over you. Yes be MAD and leave he doesn't care about you.
2007-09-03 08:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by elsa_thats_me 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys but the vast majority do. No, not all women feel the way you do, some even enjoy watching it with their guy. No, not all women dislike porn. There are women who enjoy porn for many of the same reasons men do and there are many couples that enjoy for various reasons. I
2007-09-03 08:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Starshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound totally girly man, but I feel hurt for the parents and families that have to live with the fact their loved one sees her self as nothing short of a vagina. I stopped looking at porn when I realized that she was someones daughter,sister,aunt,niece and such. Changed the way I see women on all levels now. Growing up I guess.
2007-09-03 08:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should feel helpless because you are trying to change someone rather than trying to help him.
Find out why he is watching the porn. Maybe there's a win-win scenario in there. And it could be a very good win-win if you know what I mean.
If he is hiding it from you then I would be a little more wary. But it doesn't sound like it.
If he is choosing it over you, then there is an issue here.
2007-09-03 08:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most women dislike it, some don't care and some even like it. Amoung those who dislike it, there are varying degrees of dislike. Some don't like it but tolerate it, some dislike it and voice that opinion and others consider it cheating and would leave their men for it. Frankly, I think it's WORSE than cheating in some ways. If he were having an affair with someone he cared about at least I know he isn't explointing her. To look at porn tells me he objectifies, disrespects and exploits women and I am a women too. I would not stay with a man who objectified and exploited me.
2007-09-03 08:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by conusgypsy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if you should be mad.
After his porn session, does he go to sleep or does he come to you?
Men are visual and they need that stimuli to take them to other things. If you are not available, then they use what they can.
Hand. Other hand. Both hands together.
I don't care for porn, but I find that my husband is a lot of fun after he watches it. Really now, if we could get into all of those positions we would win that Porno Award that they give for "Most Flexible in their Senior Years"
Just make sure he does not spend all of his extra income on that stuff. It can get really expensive.
Peace
2007-09-03 08:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My own experience was this: my EX husband was into porn. He hid it from me and became addicted. I found out that his addiction went far and he was frequenting strip clubs and who knows what else.
This is how I came to understand if it is a bad habit or not:
If it is interfering in anyway with anything, then it is not a good thing. Job, marriage, family, personal life, money.....
Ask yourself if you feel it is interfering.
Also, if it is truly bothering you and he knows it, he is disrespecting you. He should get rid of it and control himself. It can be done.
2007-09-03 08:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't dislike porn. Why, I oogle at naked men. I stare at them until my eyes are dry. Nothing wrong with that. Do the same and your husband should be perfectly ok with it. It's a girl thing, right?
2007-09-03 08:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by ohioan_femme 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋