im really shy..?

Question

like to every one i dont try to be shy i just never talk to anyone . i have little friends and last year i had the worst year because i would never talk to anyone and all my friends were in all different classes. i dont want to be this way and want this year to be great so how can i change. no rude comments pleeze

Answer 1

It's not easy to overcome shyness. Just try to talk to people. It's not as hard as you think. You just don't think of rejection or "What if they dont like me." This just discourages people from making friends. Also, many people may be just as shy as you are. It's easier to talk to people if you share a common interest. If you don't talk to many people, no one will know what kind of things to talk about with you. I mean, if someone sat next to you in class and started a conversation with you you'd probaly like that right? Just be nice and go converse with people. It may be hard at first but it gets easier. There may be people that won't want to be your friend but that happens. It's just life. Just go talk to people, be nice, and it will get easier to meet new people as times passes.

Answer 2

I'm shy too, but I've learned that it can make me miserable. Your probably not shy around your friends, right? Hope not. I believe shyness has to do with lack of confidence and being worried about saying something dumb or afraid someone won't like you or what you say, basically being really nervous, so it is safest to say nothing. Not really, and here is why. You practice everytime you talk to people. I like to talk and I've learned that I can talk to anyone I feel like. If people think I'm weird, then that is their problem. You are not any less worthy to be friends with others than anyone else. You would be surprised that a lot of people are nervous. They learn to be outgoing by becoming an actor. They and you can act outgoing and it will become easier to talk to people. You aren't really expected to say a lot. The other person will probably fill in on some of the conversation too. I started going to college again after many years of not going. I could see almost everyone wanted to have someone to talk to, so I would say something to the people I sat next to. Like, Did you do your homework? or What do you think about this class or the teacher?, right before class started and we would start up a conversation. Maybe I would just start up saying, Hi, I'm _____. They would usually follow by saying their name and then we would talk. You just have to find something in common with them to talk about and usually that class is a good way to start. One time I started with "I had a hard time finding this class room, did you?" Nothing fancy, just normal stuff. You have to be the one to make it happen and having your head down will not help. So look up, think positive, and start talking and you will feel so good about yourself.

Answer 3

I was very shy in school too, and if I didn't have a friend in a class I was silent. I was miserable, but I just had to take a deep breath and start talking and asking questions. It wasn't as hard a thing to do as I figured, and I expanded the circle of people I knew. You just have to remember how bad you felt sitting on your hands last year, and have a little confidence in yourself. You do have friends and you don't have any trouble talking to them. Just sitting all quiet just makes people think your stuck up. All you have to do is reach out of yourself and connect with 1 person in each class, It's not that hard, and you would enjoy school again. I was so nervous that I thought I was going to blow chunks, but when I forced myself to start reaching out it was really easy and I became comfortable enough to participate in class discussions which made everything better. Nike it, just do it.

Answer 4

In order to change your behaviour patterns regarding being shy, you first must understand why you're shy. Once you've figured that out you can begin to combat what ever is making you shy.

In the meantime, I find a great little thing to do before doing something you're nervous about (speaking to someone new, joining a club etc) is to make a reality checklist in your head:

- What is the worst thing that could possibly happen?

- What is the best thing that could possibly happen?

and

- What is the most realistic thing that could happen.

I find doing this helps a great deal. It helps to calm me down and view the world in a better way.

What ever happens, good luck :)

Answer 5

I was like that in high school. You wont be able to confront a group of people, or class. So, try to meet one new person in each class. That new friend could introduce you to his or her friends! I think it has to do with confidence. Do whatever it takes to make your self feel good about your self. If you like you, then other will too!

Answer 6

im kind of the same cause im shy and people are like do u ever talk cause i have never herd u talk and but i do have alot of friends in school but i am just not friends with all of them. my friends think i am funny soo that is a good trait for me once u find out what your trait is u start hangin with the people u have hte most things in common with.

Answer 7

try taking the initiative the next time you meet new people. say hi to people and smile. everyone likes friendly people. try to find similar topics to chat with the people you know and show that you are interested to know more 'bout them and they will return their interest. just smile always and be confident.

here's a small trick: pretend to look confident even if you're really not, people always get attracted to confident people and once people get attracted to you, confidence will go naturally to you and making friends would not be a problem. good luck! =)

Answer 8

I went there and Im going to tell you this forget about everyone think of the future make a living already or just try to be yourself I mean I dont have friends and I really dont care just do what I do hate and think "Everyones deadweight they wont help me they just slow me down who needs them" and yaddie yaddie yadda

Answer 9

I used to be like you but all i did was make little conversations then I moved on to bigger ones with the people that were friendly and that is how I made more friends.

Answer 10

Awww! i think shy girls are cute xx
Well if its you then just be yourself , or try to get your confidence up , the best way to do that is to go in for a school play or something. Good luck ^^