2007-09-03 07:42:41 · 9 answers · asked by bernadette g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Learn from her experiences! If she was a freak in the past then she should be able to rock your world.
2007-09-03 08:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you do need to get over it, however your wife needs to cool it as well. it seems she is using it to 'get at you' as she knows that it will trigger a response in you. So to be honest I think there are two sides to the story. Sure she has a past but she could have explained at the party when she recognised the man 'Oh yes I met his twin years ago, strange isn't it?' The second incident I am sorry, but that is just tacky behaviour. Having said that you let her use it as a weapon and trigger Every time you rise to the occasion It becomes like a game. The answer in the first instance could have been; ' this was before I showed her what real love is about.' In the second instance when she told you. 'I am glad you remembered me, our marriage our love.' Do not rise to the occasion. Stay calm and reasonable Enforce the positive, not the negative (which you are doing). What is in the past should stay there. One cannot always avoid the past as it is part of who we are, but we can manage it out of respect for our loved ones.
2016-05-20 03:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, coming from experience of being the promiscuous woman, I have to say that if you tell her yo forgive her and you can move on then the only way to let it go is to do just that. you see if she is truley sorry and feels bad enough for her past then it just makes it hard for her and you to heal from it. And it will never work out for the both of you. Counseling and taliking to each other about it will help, but make sure it is not a daily reminder of what has happened. Alot of times when a woman does these kinds of things it is much deeper than the act itself. It is a hurt within her that needs forgiveness and love. So hopefully she is one of these kinds of women. Love her and forgive her. You will never forget but if you guys are meant for each other then you both can grow from it. Good Luck
2007-09-03 07:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by kellico1979 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What's there to deal with? It's none of your business. As long as she isn't being promiscuous now that she's married to you, let it go. I'm sure she isn't sitting around obsessing about your past!
2007-09-03 11:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Terious 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You cannot change the past. If she has changed now, love her and don't worry about it. People will talk. There are two things you can do about that. Move away, or deal with it and blow it off. You knew about her past it sounds like when you married her. Trust her now, love her now, and forgive her past.
2007-09-03 07:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU have nothing to "deal" with. It is HER past...If you can't trust her because of her past then you shouldn't have married her at all.
2007-09-03 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go. Deal with your obvious insecurities.
2007-09-03 07:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
bernadette G, You just need to let it go and realize that she married you for eternity ! Forgive and you will be forgiven.
2007-09-03 08:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you didn't like it, you shouldn't have married her
2007-09-03 08:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋