I just feel kind of lonely. I am realizing my friends here aren't that great. I'm not sure what to do about this..?
2007-09-03 05:40:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to get laid, and wear less clothing. The tightness of the clothes is probably contributing to your anxiety.
2007-09-03 09:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is natural. I return to college at the age of 29, after being away from college about 5 years. I felt most of the students were kids 10 years younger, but I met some people close t my age and since I had to work and had homework I was usually pretty busy. You seem outgoing and will probably make good friends real easy.
For now just enjoy the weather by yourself and relax. If you can take off your clothes, NiF, put on some classic rock, something not to aggressive like the Moody Blues, Supertramp, I know you love them, or the Eagles. Maybe have a drink and do not worry about it. It should be better once your into the school year.
NiF
2007-09-03 13:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by fl_nudie_boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Starting college can be quite a scary experience, but keep in mind that it is an opportunity to start fresh and make new friends. I made friends by talking to people in classes that I was taking. We exchange phone numbers and we can hang out after class- including studying together. You can try this approach. Another approach is to find a club or organization that you are interested in. Do some research on the college website and see what that particular club has to offer. As for the friends that are truly aren't that great, don't associate yourself with them anymore. You deserve friends that value and appreciate your friendship. I hope my advice helps you and good luck. You can email me if you like since I happen to go to college myself!
2007-09-03 12:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to get back into circulation, then, and meet new people. Check with the Student Services folks, or whatever it's called at your school. Ask for a list of student organizations - you may find it on the college's website. Then pick one - or three - or ten - that sound interesting, and go to one of the meetings. The university that I work at has literally hundreds of student clubs - two or 3 ski clubs, political clubs, groups revolving around a common set of majors, climbing, canoeing, biking, the list goes on and on.
When you find one you like, get involved. Organize an activity or trip. Offer to give a talk on a related topic that you know something about. Bring in pictures from a trip that relates to the club. Become an officer. You're guaranteed to meet people this way.
2007-09-03 12:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New situations alway make people a little nervous. I found that my senior year, I was very nervous at college because I was going a different direction than most of my friends. The best solution I found was to find people that needed help and to help them. Because I am a very kid-friendly person, I found that "baby hugs" worked miracles in my life when I felt like this. I would go to my sisters house and love her baby--giving my sister time to herself and making me feel needed. Find something you love that makes you happy and remember to take time for that amid the campus activites, studying, and classes.
Good luck
2007-09-03 12:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Amber E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ran into the same thing in the Marines. Most of my unit liked to go spend half their paychecks at the boobie-bar, but I liked outdoor activities like wake boarding and playing baseball. I found that taking pride in what I did drew others' interest and they chose to be around me. The truth is, sometimes you'll be in an environment where it's worth making friends, and sometimes you won't be. It's all part of growing up. I think you will meet fun people to be friends with, it may just take time.
2007-09-03 12:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
change makes everyone nervous- try making new friends and chatting with good friends and family throughout the day on the phone- take up a new hobby- keep a journal- something to keep your mind from wandering- i have panic attacks and they started when i went to college- dont let it get that bad- see someone if u have to about this
2007-09-03 12:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends aren't that great, maybe you can start this year off fresh and find some new friends. Good luck, don't be nervous.
2007-09-03 12:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go to a big or small school? Gone a club you are interested in that your friends aren't in. Don't room with your friends and you will find more.
2007-09-03 12:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
..Probably because you'll have no flatterers & lip-pleasers there as you had an unthing herd . J/K
It's all because of the change in atmosphere. You'll soon get used to it & feel a lot better, Baby!
Wish you All The Best !
2007-09-03 13:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to make new friends at college. Even if they are "class friends". In other words, people that you only see/talk to in certain classes.
2007-09-03 12:43:39 · answer #11 · answered by Megegie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋