how can you stop yourself road raging when other people provoke?

Question

im a very curtious thoughtful driver(and person) but if someone cuts me up and is down right rude in their car i can go crazy, really crazy.. i need expert advise on dealin with anger like that or organisations in uk that can help many thanxs

Answer 1

I think the general idea of their concepts is that a good driver is always aware of the well being of others. When we are on the road, it is not only ourselves we are responsible for , we are also responsible for anyone else in the immediate vicinity, whether it be a passenger or another driver, to a pedestrian crossing the street. The bottom line is that consequences are attached to every action that we take--whether it be good consequences or bad consequences.
For me personally, this idea is always something that I'm aware of. First of all, in a financial sense, it is always in my face. A part of my paycheck is always reserved to pay for car insurance. If we weren't responsible for others, there would be no need for insurance. Insurance is a means to insure that one has the resources to take care of the results that may occur through "bad driving".

More importantly, I hold to this idea because I have a moral responsibility to others. I am always driving people around. That means, when I drive I am responsible for those with me as well as others driving on the road or those on the sidewalk. Whenever I have others in my car, their safety is second to none. Playing "car games" that may jeopardize safety is not even an option for me. Often times if I am tempted, I think of the drastic consequences that could occur. Then the temptation quickly dissipates.. Another thought that helps me (mostly in dealing with "strangers") on the road, is to envision that each individual is "somebody's child" or "somebody's husband or wife, sister or brother". Although I don't know the person, it helps me to personalize them.

Answer 2

A moment of bad judgment can change one's life forever. Road rage can result in death or imprisonment that effects you, your family, and others. Even without devastating consequences it can be financially costly in lawyers fees and maybe loss of your driver's license and job.

If all this doesn't scare you into inaction try these suggestions:

Maybe what you perceived as an aggressive act was a simple mistake. Hanlon's razor:
“Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.”

Keep a pleasant environment in the car. Soothing music (not just music you enjoy), and even scents can help control anger.

Try to keep in mind that safety comes first.

Don’t personalize the incident.

Focus on your breathing. In and out.

It isn’t your job to punish others for poor driving. Many states have a number to call and report aggressive or bad driving and the police will investigate the driver.

If you feel out of control pull over and stop until you recover.

Answer 3

You carry the crazy anger with you. You are looking for an excuse to lose control.
The cutting off may have been unintentional, a mistake.
It wasn't personal. So, think that you could have done the same thing to someone else. And let it go. Forgive the slight.
I can't help you with finding a group. Start by looking up mental health clinics or anger management. Peace. C. :)!!

Answer 4

I am not an expert, but I'll give you this thought:

Try to think about what difference this act will have on your trip in 5 minutes. If you get cut off, and don't try to catch the offender to cut them off, what difference will it have on your trip? In 5 minutes, you'll be 5 more miles down the road.

If you do act, you could set off a chain of events leading to a high-speed game of tit for tat, maybe ending with someone trapped upside down in a ball of smoking wreckage.

Try thinking to yourself, "That person may not have seen me", or try to feel smug and think that "The other driver was obviously raised by a pack of rabid wolves. and will probably be captured by the Animal Control Officer before she even gets to the grocery store". Then get on with your day.

Answer 5

First, the other person does not create these feelings you have on their own.
No one should be so powerful to be able to invoke those or any other feelings....you have control over you.
Anger management may assist in digging up your deep-rooted emotions

Answer 6

regardless of what someone else may say or do you are responsible for your own actions. Why do you allow someone to make you angry? If you do not give them that power over you, then it will not piss you off. for instance if i called you a jerk? what do you care. you dont know me and what i say makes no difference to you. you should look at them the same way. Instead of being angry take satisfaction that their stupidity will cause their own demise one day and just pray they dont take an innocent life with them.

Answer 7

You have to find ways to control yourself ---- it's all about self control in any situation.