My ex-husband's mother always sends my children giftcards at Christmas and on their bdays. By his own decision, he is not a part of our lives - I don't even know where he is. She lives about 30 miles away and hasn't seen my kids in over 2 years. In the past, we do accept these giftcards and send her a thank you card in which I always tell her she is welcome to visit the kids whenever she would like. She never does. Should I send the giftcards back to her this Christmas? I hate to take away from the kids, but I think it is a slap in their face that she is so close and won't be a part of their lives. Obviously, being a single mom of these 3 kids, the cards allow me to get them a few things I wouldn't be able to normally get them. She usually sends about $50 on their bdays and about $200 at Christmas. What's the RIGHT thing to do?
2007-09-03 05:24:02 · 2 answers · asked by sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm in similar situation, with some differences. She is obviously making an effort with is honorable...if you can deal with her enough that you would allow her to see your kids, then THAT is the right thing to do...in that case, I would say to keep the giftcards for your kids then.
On the other hand, if for whatever reason, you still don't want her seeing your kids (I don't know your history here), then return the gift cards.
2007-09-03 05:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by lookinforanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend the money on the kids send her a thank u card & get over it..some people do not want 2 hav2 answer the tough question of why...it makes her feel better 2 help this way let her.
2007-09-03 05:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by katwaxr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋