If you are way below in social, economic, educational, professional status than your life partner, how do you cross beyond these gaps so they do not become stopping blocks in an otherwise successful and happy life?
2007-09-03 04:22:33 · 8 answers · asked by hateevilstalkers 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Look at what you bring to the table and don't focus on what you perceive as "gaps". Kindness, compassion, empathy, humor, and love far outweighs status in any relationship. These are the things of real substance and will help you sustain your relationship.
2007-09-03 06:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is made of more than these ingredients.
It is USUALLY other people, in particular family members who apply the kind of preasure that can crumble the bonds between loving partners.
It seems not to matter at FIRST when the heady infactuation stage is present. Ten years on, it can be a little LESS CUTE to be DIFFERENT.
All I can say is that if the marriage is build on a solid foundation of love, respect and compatibility then you will be FINE.
Being thoughtful towards each other. Not taking each other for granted. Kind consideration, etc will help to make that gap invisible.
Many couples start out in life POOR and struggling and then work hard towards a common goal.Twenty years down the track you may have shifted several quadrents in terms on income and social standing. It just happens that one part of your partnership had a head start is all.
A big heart, a lot of love and wanting the best for each other should silence any arguments against your ability to make it.
A relationship is negotiated between the two individuals involed. It is NONE of any one elses business.
It is IMPORTANT to let go of the LABLE that could get in the way. Many times it is the person themselves that sabotages their chances by the chip on their shoulder about it and being overly sensitive to outsiders points of view. We can some times read WAY TOO MUCH into comments from others and then BANG, anger, resentment and all sorts of ugly stuff is triggered.
Hold you head high, know you are a good and decent person and do not allow others to belittle you. We all have our worth, not EVERYTHING is about MONEY, and dont let anyone convince you otherwise.
2007-09-03 11:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to school yourself! If you are genuinely motivated and believe these gaps may loom large in your marriage, then start your OWN educational program!! If you are lucky, you'll find some area that really fascinates you! Then GO FOR IT!! Whether or not this would lead you into a profession, is NOT THE IMPORTANT POINT! Education is a goal in itself because it enhances LIFE and one's interest, vocabulary, points of view and in every other facit of life! Who knows, you might find a field that DOES take you into a profession, too. But a caution: Your husband may have married you BECAUSE you do have the gaps in these areas?????? A feeling of superiority? But if he's a good man, he'll encourage and support your long term goals of college.
2007-09-03 11:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You overcome this with Jesus. You take Him into your heart and you become a child of the KING! As a child of the King you become Royalty!!
You find a good church and good library. You begin to read and read and read!! There are plenty of self taught men and women! Abe Lincoln was self taught. Einstein was unsuccessful in school & quit school, but you can see how successful they became.
Your self worth is not based on how much schooling you have, your social life, professional status or how much education you have gained. Your identity should come from God. If you get your identity from Christ, you will renew your self image. You have potential. It doesn't have to stop with what you have now, but it can become great with life in Christ. Take Him into your heart today. Receive what He has to give you.
PS. Love can overcome a multitude of things!
2007-09-03 12:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you always have to put this in your mind: You can always learn whenever you want. You can go to collage at 50.
Secondly, as long as you life partner loves you dearly, he/she can provide you with money while YOU try to earn as much.
3. You can pick a subject you are good at. Go to collage and study that subject. Then be a professional.
4. If you have problem with social world, you must overcome yourself. Ask yourself questions as:
How can I become friendlier?
Am I moral?
Am I honest?
Am I a show-off? etc...
Don't just say "yes I do," to everything.Observe yourself and see how you crash against the society.
If you never studied, ask you life partner to teach. If both never studied, you need to learn from ANYONE you know who's studied .
2007-09-03 11:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Chan-min K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my favorite quotes is, "Judge your success by what you had to give up to get it".
That being said, don't compare these things to your sig. other - we each have our strengths and weaknesses. Besides; if it's real love, your partner would not judge you based on these things and neither should you!
If you are interested in fortifying these areas of your life, how about taking a night or weekend class in something you're interested in?
2007-09-03 11:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by lookinforanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dig in your heels and go on strike.
or maybe issue some currency,
like
This bill entitles the bearer to one entire hour of complaining
or for sex
or for doing the dishes maybe
or food coupons for people who can't feed themselves
2007-09-03 11:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With difficulty.
2007-09-03 12:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋