2007-09-03 04:08:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mum has schizophrenia and moved abroad when i was just 4 years old, and returned to the uk when i was about 19, so i grew up without her, just my dad and siblings. During her time away there was next to no contact between herself and us.
Being mentally ill she has some behaviours that i am uncomfortable with - she used to be very delusional (for example, for a long time she insisted that my brother was not her son but an imposter) and argumentative (although my late father and older siblings usually bore the brunt of her behaviours). Sometimes she says hurtful things. Today she is less delusional (or maybe she just doesnt tell us about them)
Given that she wasnt there during my formative years, and she has a condition which makes it difficult to form a working relationship with her, in practice i kinda see her more as a mad auntie than a mother - not her fault, its not anybody's fault, its just the way it is. Its changing tho, i am making more of an effort to connect with her (although she doesnt always make this very easy!!).
2007-09-03 06:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom had me at 47, after she had already had 17, so she was tired, and ill, she didnt take care of me much till I turned 5. My older sisters did most the work. I dont blame her, she has always been there for me since I can remember. She's hard to describe, but she looks like Jessica Tandy from Fried green tomatos, and as sweet as that character. She has always believed in me, and was always in the crowd cheering me on when I would sing at school, and she believed I could become a writer before I knew I was one. I don't get to see her as often as I would like, living farther away from her now, but I know she loves me.
Shes a shy person, she doesnt just visit or call, she never even learned to drive. and she never hugged me growing up or even said I love you, but she did other things for me, and I somehow know deep down she loves me a lot. She's 82 now, and I dred the day I have to say goodbye to her forever, I lost dad in highschool, and I'm not ready to be in this world without a parent.
2007-09-03 16:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Grace, A very good one ! When I had my motercycle accident back in 1985 she let me move back home. My now xwife and I were divorcing.So yeah we too have a very special bond ! Since we are both retired we help each other out.
2007-09-03 13:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋