My children (boy age 8 and girl age 11) enjoy going to church with step mom and I, but ex said that I promised to raise the children catholic during baptism. I think their mom is just looking for excuses to be mad at me.
2007-09-03 03:58:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I assume you were married in the Catholic Church.
If this is so, then, at that time you were married, you and your ex-wife promised to raise your children as Catholics.
Then, when your children were baptized, you, your ex-wife, and both godparents promised to raise the children as Catholics.
By not fulfilling your promises, you not only are breaking your word but making it difficult (or impossible) for your ex-wife and both godparents to keep their promises.
Please consider all of the people involved before you decide what to do.
With love in Christ.
2007-09-03 17:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
*Is Catholic*
If you, when you were married or at some time during that marriage, were a Catholic, then you are under a permanent obligation to Christ to raise your children Catholic.
The 1983 Code of Canon Law does not make the promise to raise the children Catholic obligatory for a non-Catholic. What is required is non-interference in the raising of the children Catholic by the other spouse. I am not sure about the CCL prior to 1983.
The question that this comes down to is what promise did you make and how did you make it. Only then can one determine if it is necessary to maintain that promise for the sake of your salvation (because this promise (or oath depending on how this was conducted) could have been an oath to God).
It is also worth pointing out that all parents in all cultures in all times have the obligation to raise their children in truth and according to virtue. The Catholic Church is in fact the fullness of truth, and so if you understand this and know this, then you are obliged to raise your children Catholic.
However, as you are not attending a Catholic church currently, you are not aware of this, but now that I have told you it become imperative of you to research and understand if what I say is true, so that you might raise your children in accord with truth and virtue according to its fullest possible degree that is open to you.
2007-09-07 01:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Liet Kynes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably looking for an excuse to be against you, but I think all that matters is that the children are still being raised with a church that is founded on the birth, death and resurection of Jesus Christ as the son of God. That should be all that matters, it is not like you were both Catholic and now you are bringing them to temple.
2007-09-03 11:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends. Do the kids like or miss going to the Catholic church? Also, do they have God parents who are involved and encourage them to go to the Catholic church? If so, you should take them.
If not, then I would just take them to wherever you are going, and not stress about it. They will go where you go when they are with you, and when they are with their mom, they will go to the Catholic church.
Now later on, when they are older, they can make their own decisions, but for now, you are their father, and they should respect your decisions.
2007-09-03 11:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quite honestly, I think it's YOUR choice how you raise your children. If it catholic, fine. If it's protestant, fine. Don't allow someone else to tell you how to raise YOUR children.
Stand firm of your beliefs and don't back down. Do what's best for your children and you will never go wrong!
2007-09-03 11:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your children are old enough now,let them decide which religion they want to follow,then their mother can have no say,good luckxx
2007-09-03 11:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋