And everything went SO well! He said he is cool with it and he respects that I am gay. He even apologized for all the times he tried to hook me up with girls and made remarks about them that made me uncomfortable. He is the first person I've told, I can't believe I did it. I woke up this morning at first saying to myself "what have I done?" but now I realize it needed to be done... I feel like 1000 lbs has been lifted off my chest, I could only imagine how I would feel if everyone finally knew...
2007-09-03 03:17:00 · 33 answers · asked by Flashing Lights 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry, It's not really a question lol, I am just so happy to be making progress :P sharing my happiness weeeee lmao
2007-09-03 03:21:36 · update #1
I want to add my congrats to you also. I am so very proud of you!!!
The first person I came out to was a woman named Alexis when I was 14. We belonged to a charitible group, and when I was "confessing" to her in private, another person came in the room unnoticed, overheard a smidgen of what was going on, and ran to report Alexis as a child molester. The top man of our group promptly expelled her, her older brother (who was second in command) fought to get her back in, she was branded a pervert, and still she refused to disclose my secret! When I learned what was happening, I told her that I would fix everything and tell them all that she was trying to help me. She refused. "You don't have to tell those people ANYTHING about your sexuality!" I told her brother, who quickly called for a group hearing to defend his sister without revealing my secret. I came to the hearing, took the stage, and said I had something to say. Alexis promptly stood up and resigned and called the hearing to an end. I took the mic and told everybody what had really happened, and that Alexis was in a fact a very honorable person who could be counted on to carry a secret even to her own personal disgrace.
Long story not so long, she was reinstated, the gossip was reprimanded, and I received (to my surprise) full support from my group. That was 4 years ago, we are still in the group, and I am publically out and proud.
That's my long-winded story of my outing.
2007-09-03 03:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm very happy for you. I felt the same way after I told the first person I was gay. As time goes on, you will decide who you can and can't come out to. The ones who stick by you arethe real friends. Good job
2007-09-03 05:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy for you. I am a straight grandmother of 3 boys and saw your q and wanted to respond. I intend to be a good support for the boys through anything and everything, even sexuality. It takes a very strong individual to feel good about themselves in todays world. Congratulations.
2007-09-03 03:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations to you!!! I know how that goes, and I am glad that it went so well for you. Good for you honey. That is fabulous! Just remember to be careful though about completely coming out and about. Not everyone may react the same way that your friend did.
2007-09-03 06:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by open minded 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Some will see it well, like he did, but recognize that others might not take it the same way. Keep that in the back of your mind and when the time is right to tell another friend, you'll do it again, and again, and again. d:)
Ignore "Whitemaster"...it's usually those who protest the loudest who are afraid of their own gay feelings.
2007-09-03 03:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gary D 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
National Coming Out Day is October 11th.
2007-09-03 03:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That is awesome! I am happy it went well. It kind of reminds me of when I came out to my brother. He used to make fun of the gay character on Melrose place around me, but after I told him about me... he appologised profusively.
Best of luck with your next "outing"
2007-09-03 05:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations... i'm so happy for you... i didn't come out until i was 30...after a marriage to a woman and everything... i swore to myself that i would DIE with my secret... life is SO much better now... good for you.. AND...you single handedly made the world a better place for all gay people by being the conduit that made your friend realise that it was wrong to assume you were straight and make you uncomfortable... thanks...
2007-09-03 04:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
max, well done, just remember being 'gay' is not in anyway wrong, if 'christians' try to tell you otherwise, know this God is not against 'gays' anymore than he is for 'normals' He is against immoral or offensive sex acts.
if you are offended by any sex act then that act is a sin and you would be commiting a sin by doing it.
if you do not kissing or holding hands or find it offensive when someone tries to kiss you or hold your hand then they are commiting a sin against you - can you follow my meaning?
2007-09-03 03:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! Coming out can be very traumatic. I'm glad your experience was positive.
2007-09-03 05:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Spyderbear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋