I've always heard people give advice of, oh chemistry fades, you should never marry someone just for sex. Well what if sex is really just that important to the people. People marry for all sorts of reasons, esp these days. Love, Money, children, convenience, etc. What is so wrong with marrying someone who you have great sex with?
2007-09-03 02:59:37 · 20 answers · asked by gally g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well never say never
2007-09-03 03:03:38 · update #1
well if the sex always fades and people know this...then what might i ask is the point of getting married??? So people dont have to go through life alone??
2007-09-03 03:14:27 · update #2
WoW...I really feel sad for those who say "sex always fades", and the men who honestly believe that women are only good in bed until the get the man to marry them and then the sex goes down hill or stops completely! Those men have married women with sexual issues...or perhaps women who have careers that have taken over and nothing else matters anymore.
I have NEVER had sex "fade" and have NEVER married and then "stopped having sex" completely. If anything, the sex gets better the more you learn about your mate and the more you learn to love the one you're with!
Every day I love my man more and more...and every day I feel our sex lives get better and much more intimate because of it! Now, there are times that we are tired and not able to perform to full capacity, however, that goes both ways....but we're both understanding of that...why? Because we love each other. Which brings me to the question at hand:
Sex is, and should be a very important part of a relationship...however, so should LOVE, TRUST, COMPATIBILITY, UNDERSTANDING, HAPPINESS, HUMOR, FUN, COMMON GOALS, ETC.
If you don't have those things, and all you have is sex, you're going to be very disappointed when, during your non-sex moments, you have nothing to do, talk about, share things with, etc....AND...what happens if you have great sex, but find that you're now married, but really can't stand this person except for when you're having sex with them...uh-oh!
So, there is nothing wrong with marrying someone you have great sex with...SEX IS AN AWESOME THING, AN IMPORTANT PART OF MOST RELATIONSHIPS, AND CAN, CAN, CAN GET BETTER AND BETTER AS YOU GO AS LONG AS YOU KNOW HOW TO KEEP IT GOING AND GROWING...but, make sure you have something else to do on the down time or the marriage is gonna get real old, real fast!
Good luck and take care!
J :)
2007-09-03 03:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone just for "sex" is not going to work out. (I have been married for 18 years btw)
It will not work out because marriage is not based around sex alone. In the end, looks fade and all you end up is with the person you married (personality). My advice to you is to marry someone you really enjoy spending time with also. Sure, sexual attraction is very important, but it is not the only important thing. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and it isn't a union to take lightly. One question to ask yourself is...What would you do if there was a medical reason why the 2 of you couldn't have sex after you are married?
2007-09-03 10:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is really more than sex. Besides, speaking realistically, once you've been with someone for a long time, the sex becomes routine & not that exciting.
The difference is, if you have other reasons apart from sex for getting married, you'll be moved to revitalize the sex to keep the relationship interesting. However, if you marry solely for sex, what will you do once the sex runs out, which is most definitely will? Divorce is always an option, but why bother with having to go though the legal hassle?
If you really enjoy the sex with someone, then bonk him for all he's worth and move on after! You can totally save on wedding costs!!
2007-09-03 10:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_ixora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't hear the word L O V E. If you can be honest about having good sex with a woman, then be honest about this with your mate. If she agrees with you, then you both should do whatever makes you Both happy. But, the reality of this type of situation is...women don't want to marry for this reason. Marriage should not be taken lightly, regardless of what odd excuses people use these days to get married. Don't follow a horrible trend. It would be a waste of her time and yours. Be completely honest with yourself and take responsibility for your actions. If you want sex then you must know that marriage doesn't guarantee you that. Marriage and sex DO NOT go hand in hand. I think your hormones are making decisions for you and I am sure it feels great but you must be responsible and look at the long-term effects of your actions. The best thing to do is to be upfront and clear with your partner. Tell her that you enjoy sex with her and that's it. Because that really is the truth. If you don't need more than that-make it clear. Don't confuse selfishness with anything else. Believe it or not, you may find a woman who wants the same things that you do, but if you have a partner that doesn't agree with your thoughts about marriage-you should respect that and MOVE ON...........QUICKLY!
2007-09-03 10:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by cejea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone for the sex is stupid!!!
There is more to marriage than sex, because if you marry someone for the sex, they are going to end up feeling like that your only using them for the sex.
If you get married just for the sex, might as well plan on a divorce, because after a while say one partner loses interest in sex, what are you gonna do if you want it and your partner doesn't? Gonna cheat or divorce your partner and move on to the next person?
That just makes you very cheap, and shallow.
I married my wife because I fell in love with her and wanted to make the commitment to spend the rest of my life with her as her husband. The problem today is people put WAY too much importance on sex, and not about the relationship.
If you base your marriage on sex alone, get ready for a big let down. It's a shallow and selfish way to go into a marrige.
2007-09-03 10:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because sooner or later the sex will become less and less and then what will the people involved have left. Sure all relationships have great sex for the first couple of years but eventually the honeymoon stage does end and then what. Sex will be with you throughout your married life (but at a lesser degree) so people need to be able to communicate and do many other things together beside just breeding.
2007-09-03 10:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sex is only one of the reasons a person is likely to marry for but it should never be the primary reason because the relationship has no real character or depth at that point.
Something more than sex has to take over to sustain a life long commitment.
2007-09-03 10:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
More to the point - why would you marry someone just for the sex? If the sex is brilliant then your lust for each other would keep you together so long as the sex remains brilliant.
Marriage is a public statement of your love and dedication to each other. Once you get really old or one of you falls ill and the sex "dries up" what's left to keep you together?
Lots of people get married for lots of reasons but the marriages that really work have Love as their core - its an old fashioned concept I know.
2007-09-03 10:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Paul M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone strictly for sex is morally wrong and the marriage will be doomed from the beginning. Yes sex is very important in a marriage...but there is more to a marriage then just the sex.
2007-09-03 10:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with marrying someone who you have great sex with. It just should not be the only reason for marrying them.
2007-09-03 10:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋