My ex & I have joint custody & he has been paying me $350 a month. In June, my son approached me to me that he wanted to go & live with his dad & got to school there. He assured me that it was nothing that I did or didn't do - just that he wanted to spend more time with his dad & wanted to go to school there. The problem is that I was under this mistaken assumption that all I would have to do is give up the $350 that he had been paying me. That moeny had been going towards house payment that he left me with along with other expenses involved with our son. Now the ex is stating that I should be paying him. I look at my bills & right now I am scraping by without the $350 that he had been paying me and I don't see how I could come up with anything significant to pay him. The only thing that seems left for me to do is sell the house - but then how long will that take me with the economy the way that it is-what about the child support that he is expecting me to pay before it sells??
2007-09-03 02:35:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had joint custody for 5 years.
2007-09-03 02:37:03 · update #1
Now you know how your ex feels when he screws you for all your money
2007-09-07 01:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by chef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you son is under the age of 18 (or whatever the age of majority is in the state that you live in) he does not get to choose which parent he should live with. Your son needs to sit down with you and discuss his reasons for wanting to live with his father. Going to school cannot be the only reason. The best living situation is ideal for children so, is his father equipped to provide the means of taking care of your son full time? If so, then you and the father should make this decision-NOT the child. If you are not secure financially then you should work something out with the father to help cover expenses that you are having trouble with. Sit down together and write down ways to help each other. If this is not possible then decide if you son will have a better future continuing to live with you or his father. If you take this to court, it could get ugly especially if your relationship is on bad terms with the father. You should talk it out first if you can. Otherwise, look into getting a GOOD lawyer (expensive)
2007-09-03 10:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by cejea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two will still have to go to court tomake this legal if the Judge evens agrees to it otherise you are the custodian parent in the eyes of the law and should something happen. Its just not a matter of turning over the child to dad and reversing support on your own. You need to file for a remodification hearing and then ask the Judge to let your son decide would be the easiest way. Good luck
2007-09-03 09:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex husband is going to have primary, residential custody of your son then yes indeed YOU have to pay child support. By having primary residential custody your ex husband has to provide EVERYTHING for your son that you did and that all costs money...As far as selling the house I'd check with your lawyer and see what you can do. But you son still needs child support.
2007-09-03 20:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to go back to court and the pay that you have to pay will be based on your income ,not what your ex was paying. the judge might only make you pay 25-50 a week but that will be his decission not your exs. make sure to state that it will still be joint custody and the door is open if your son wants to move back. with the spare room could you get a room mate ?
2007-09-03 09:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure about selling the house, but if the son does live with the dad, you will have to pay him child support. no question about that. it will be based on your income, so maybe it would not be 350 per month...
2007-09-03 09:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he can take you to court for child support. you can have the court appoint a lawyer for you or represent yourself. they will base it off your income.
2007-09-03 09:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult your lawyer
2007-09-03 09:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardo W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋