2007-09-03 01:27:27 · 18 answers · asked by olivia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you pay attention, to the wants needs and desires of your partner,, and hope that they do the same for you
2007-09-03 01:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a marriage and one of the problems that is causing us to split is that we dont make time for one another. After you get married, the dating stops. There is also no more trying to get that person so the interests arent the same. Of course then there is the whole thing with resposibilities. A lot of men think that once they get married, the house is the wifes responsibility and they dont help out as much. Not to mention that when you have kids, some men feel that the wife should deal with all aspects of the children unless it is for punishment......the only thing I can say is keep things equal. Make date nights for just the two of you. Go out with friends together.
2007-09-03 01:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOVE to SHOW LOVE to each other.......but AGREE to. (if you CAN't agree to that then sadly the love is already dying.)
Remind each other of the days when you first got married and then try the following .... but you must both commit to it in the same way as if you were starting a 7 Day Diet together - it's simple and it works.
You BOTH agree to do everything that you know ALWAYS makes your wife/husband or husband/wife HAPPY - NO questions asked. YOU each write a list in order 1 - 10 of waht makes you happy and for 7 days you mustn't fail to honor this. The loser arranges something romantic together and must allow their partner to SELECT a specified 7 day period when they will be able to choose everything you do together.
It worked for me - we were 'fighting' to please each other, biting our tongue and barely bickering!
PS. And YES, men DO need a lot more 'passionate' sex but are not naturally good at 'romantic' sex. The latter only comes when there is 'love' back in the relationship.
Hope this is an idea - it worked for me and is better than no suggestion!!
I am sure there will also be many unrealistic '+2 points' answers on here too.
2007-09-03 01:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Texman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Forgiving Love -- Because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross, all of our sins have been forgiven. The forgiving love He has shown to us is essential in a marriage. It offers a fresh start after one spouse hurts or offends another. Without forgiveness, no marriage will ever last.
2. Serving Love -- Do you know your spouse’s deepest needs? Loving him or her with a servant’s heart is the best and quickest way to find out. Serve one another in love (after all – the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve).
3. Persevering Love -- Marriage is a marathon – not a sprint. Are you in it for the long haul, or do you have the tendency to “bail out” when the going gets tough? Persevering love sustains us through the trials of life (and trials are what makes any marriage real).
4. Guarding Love -- In other words, let him or her know that you’ll do anything to keep the marriage together (as long as its legal and moral, of course). The modern culture isn’t all that keen on marriage -- even though it’s the backbone of society. Guarding love protects your heart and the heart of your spouse from the threats to your marriage, and believe me they’re out there!
5. Celebrating Love -- That’s right – celebrate your marriage! What a gift the two of you have been given. Celebrating love equips you to maintain a satisfying emotional, physical, and spiritual connection with your mate. Celebrate it!
6. Renewing Love -- No marriage will survive if either or both spouses constantly challenge its integrity by threatening to leave. The fact is, Renewing love enables both husband and wife to regard the marriage covenant as unbreakable (just like God does). So share this gift with your spouse every day. Rejoice in the fact that you’ll be together forever -- “for better or worse!”
Love takes time – any good relationship does. So stay the course , keep praying, and start “divorce-proofing” your marriage by loving your spouse!
2007-09-03 01:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by shiverz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Balance my dear, balance.
Make sure you pay attention to your loved one, but don't forget your own needs as well.
Keep your expectations realistic. There isn't a human being alive who has never made a mistake so don't expect perfection.
And remember that when things are good it's great, when things are bad it's awful, but everything can be overcome if you keep the lines of communication open.
2007-09-03 01:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Louise H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my marriage & family classes the solution discussed was doing new things together. from a bio-psychological standpoint, doing new things causes adrenaline rushes and excitement, much like falling in love. so, if you do new things with an old love, your brain will associate the adrenaline & excitement of the activity (rock climbing, etc) with the person. plus, people who share experiences often have an unspeakable bond.
think of how new york city & america acted after 911. we all felt a sense of closeness and a bond as americans because we had a shared, momentus experience. this bonding occurs in tragic experiences & in great, exhilarating experiences. use science to your benefit. as time has passed, that close bonding has begun to wane, but if we keep experiencing new things as americans, we will continually renew that bond.
btw, i'm a sociology student doing a survey on relationships & marriage. i would love your input. http://geocities.com/sbiv37/
2007-09-03 01:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love changes and has times of closeness and others not so close. Hang in there in the bad times, keep the faith. Remember to do the little things you did when dating, for example leaving notes, buying little gifts. Taking walks together or making a cup of coffee or tea for the other. Making them a meal, snuggling in bed. Go on dates together.
2007-09-03 01:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by luteachris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the little thing that you both enjoy. Go out on a date once a week; and if you have kids, find a baby sitter. Send your spouse a love note. Talk to each other; always hold hands when you go out. Little things go a long way.
2016-04-03 01:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to mix things up to keep it from being boring. Have regular date nights. Take a dance class together. Learn to communicate about everything from finances to sex to kids to chores, etc. Make sure you take the time to say "I Love You" every single day. Make sure you regularly take time to just be together - even if being together just means you're cuddling on the couch with him watching TV while she reads.
2007-09-03 01:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Justin H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something that allways makes me and my husband fall in love all over is start talking about when we first met and all the things we done, how it all started it brings all the love back and say i love you all the time, be kind hold hands in the car, do sweet things for each other, laugh and joke around with each other
have a great labor day
2007-09-03 01:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make your partners feelings, needs, wants and desires your #1 priority above your own.
Show your partner that you love them, not just saying it, but by doing it.
For my wife, my doing the little things like helping dishes, and laundry, and helping her with the kids, to her that's how she views my showing that I love her, more than giving gifts and flowers.
2007-09-03 03:18:07 · answer #11 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋