What do you think of young mothers?

Question

Do you look down on them? I'm talking mothers of age 17-25

I was 20 when my daughter was born, 19 when I fell pregnant.

fell pregnant is the way I am used to hearing it. People say they are trying to 'fall pregnant' I'm in Australia OK maybe things are said differently over there, I mean what the hell is a bodega?? lol

Answer 1

Well sometimes they are just not emotionally mature enough... but as we all know you become it pretty quick after baby comes LOL I think they are fresh and young and have fun with parenting, i don't see a problem with it unless they are negligent or are doing it for the wrong reason.....

ps...I fell pregnant at 21 and had babe at 22

Answer 2

I was a young mother ( 16 ), and I grew up quickly and my son turned out well.
These days it seems to be the in thing to be pregnant at a very young age.
I see them at all hours of the night walking there screaming babies up and down the street, hanging out on the corner with the babies bottle propped in there mouths smoking blunts.
The most nutritious meal they get is a 25 cent bag of chips, and a juicy from the bodega.
We went clothes shopping for my daughter the other day, and some really young girl with 3screaming kids was off shopping, just letting her kid bawl at the top of his lungs until he was purple, and she ignored him until security came.She wasnt more than 24.
I think they can be immature pigs quite honestly.

I'm sorry,.....you "fell" pregnant? Can you explain how that happens? It's not an illness.

A bodega is a store.
Ours stay open 24 hrs. a day so that the teen moms can feed there kids when they are out lookin for they babies daddies at 2 in the morning.

Answer 3

It depends. If it is what they wanted and they have the intelligence and resources (financial, etc) to care for the child properly so that they aren't in danger of neglect in certain areas (i.e. food, proper med/dental insurance) I think it's fine. Also consider the end result. If the child is well behaved and grows into a functional, rational adult who isn't an idiot, then no problems whatsoever. My cousin had her 1st around 25, and I'd like to throw that little bastard under a truck. However, if its done out if impulse or sheer irresponsibility, it kind of pisses me off. "Oh well, I didn't make my moron boyfriend wear a condom" or "I'm 18 and he/she's the one!" (Except for the fact that 18 year olds are IDIOTS....) "I decided to keep it, this could be cool. I kind of wanted one eventually anyway..." It's not a pet. It's a human being. It's a child, not a vanity project. My concern is more for the kid's sake, mostly because a child should not have to suffer because one or more parents is a moron.

Answer 4

I am a 27 year old mother of 4 sons ok ye its hard and you are looked down on but my kids have everything they need and they respect and love me that is all that matters i dont care what other people think of me.I work parttime when they in school. I am a better mother cause i am younger and understand how they are feeling and what is going on around them and they can talk openly to me. I never had support from my family and im doing gr8 without them.I love being a mother to them.

Answer 5

The big 2 questions that would result in my judgement is 1.Are they married 2. Out of school. But its none of my buisness and not my place to say UR A CRAPPY MOM U HAD A CHILD WHEN U WERE 17. So no i dont look down on them just wished they might have waited to marriage or somthin

Answer 6

I feel for them, it is a big task they have to raise a child being just a child themselves. But mother's in their own nature have a way of working things out for the best. To all the young mothers out there do not be discouraged by any negative comments you may read, life it full of oppurtunities so take advantage of them now.

PS my mother had me when she was 33 to anyone thinking I'm partial to the question asked. I feel everyone deserves a fair chance at success no matter their circumstance.

Answer 7

No, I don't look down on them. If a young mother got pregnant unexpectedly to a deadbeat loser then I would feel sorry for them. If a young mother had babies purely to get welfare benefits, then I would feel sorry for society.

BUT I know a few young mothers in that age bracket, and they are married, their babies are planned and they are very good mothers.

After all, it was only a few decades ago that all or most babies were born to women in this age group - having a baby in your late 30's was unheard of!

If a mother is a good mother and she loves her children, then that's all that matters, not her age.

Answer 8

After all the warnings the world has set fourth on pregnencys, Woman still go at it with a handsom face, at young ages.

There not ready for the crying, getting up at weird hours, and the fact, when you spred the legs in a act of so called love, pregnencys occur.

young mom's world of fun and fantisy dissapears. She has a tiny life now to handle, probably with very little help from others

I look down on the pretty face guys, that got them pregnant, ran off ignoring their respon sibilities ect....

Answer 9

I think if you are still in high school when you get pregnant that its a bit shameful. I can't tell you the amount of pregnant girls I see walking to school every morning. Its sad. They have no idea.

You cleared my own personal quota. :) You were probably (or should have been) out of high school by the time you had your child. I'm sure it would have been easier to have it happen a couple years down the road but crap happens! And crap is only acceptable when you are an adult out of school!!! LOL

Answer 10

I look upon them with compassion; raising children is the hardest job ever! It must be terribly difficult to be wiping noses and behinds when all of their friends are out having fun. But, this is the path that they have chosen and having a child is a commitment to eternity.

My grandson's mommy was quite young (19, like you) when she had him. She stepped up to the challenge and is a fabulous mother. I respect this very much!