Why do guys end up marrying women who are nothing like their friends and don't like their friends?

Question

Maybe the vice-versa is true, but I don't see it as often.

Answer 1

I think there is a lack of understanding between some couples and who they choose to have as friends. Some friends are easier to get along with than others, and some may be closer in relationship than others. My husband has had many different characters as friends, but the ones closest to him are also regarded as my friends, as we all share the same values, though we differ in some view points. The ones that I could not stand or did not get along with (few) are ones that have betrayed us or never lasted as close friends. Some of these were because their girlfriends or wife didn't want us to stay friends (purposely turning down invitations and such) because of difference in values. These couples usually ended in divorce, break up, and could have been a great spotlight on Jerry Springer!

Hmmmm.....

Answer 2

Opposite attraction.

Answer 3

I have seen "nothing like their friends" more often than "don't like their friends," personally.

But I don't think it's so complicated--I think a man looks for a different kind of relationship with the woman in his life than he does with his buddies. After all, he doesn't live with his buddies or have sex with them.

I would say, if you really dislike a buddy's wife, you are rejecting some aspect of HIM, since obviously he felt he needed her and loved her. Otherwise they wouldn't be married.

Answer 4

Men often try to find a woman that inspires them to a 'higher standard.'

When hanging with his buddies, he can be grubby, lax, or 'typically male,' as he wants to be, while his wife inspires him to watch his mouth, his behavior, etc. You can't be a drunken @$$ all the time, if it makes it look bad to your wife.

How well that balancing strategy works out is largely dependent on the individual male and female, but I think this is another case of the function where people automatically idealize the inherent morality/virtue associated with women, and bank on them having the strength to uphold said virtue.

Answer 5

I had nothing in common with my ex-husband's friends and he didn't like my friends. My ex-girlfriend liked my friends but I usually didn't like hers, since they were often heavy drinkers and I don't drink at all. So far, I like the friends I've met that my boyfriend has and vice versa (he moved to my area, so we don't get to see his friends as much, but he has met up with them quite a few times).

I hate hearing that either gender is possessive of their partners and don't want their partners to have friends. Even if you don't like them, why wouldn't you want your partner to see their friends on their own? It sounds awful to isolate your partner.

Same goes with relatives. I never dragged my partners to see my relatives but they all want to drag me to see theirs, and most of the time, my partners didn't want to be around their families either. Why does misery think we want to accompany them?

Answer 6

Opposite attract...

Answer 7

They either use it as an excuse to get away from their friends or they are weak and let their partner boss them around and loose what is more important.

Answer 8

It's generally a post marriage change.Most women don't like sharing their love/affection of their husband by others.Envy or jealousy or what ever.

Answer 9

i can say one thing they maybe mad at that caus u gotto create a relationship before u get married

Answer 10

Its arising mainly due to family system- relligious system - caste - creed - region - culture etc systems domination.