Honestly, both of us already married, but one time, unexpectedly we met again, and he saying that he still loved me and he wants us to meet sometimes, i admit i still loved him too, but i decided not to communicate with him, i told him that is not good to us for us to still have communication even as friends communication, because i do believe and we cannot deny that we still love each other, but he told me we may communicate even as friends but i still decided not to get in touch with him, because im afraid to fall so much to him, do you think my decision was right? please help me guys out there, ur answer will really help me to decide..thanks and godbless..
2007-09-02 20:49:47 · 14 answers · asked by misscongeniality042000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've made the right decision. Because both of you are already married so you have a strong commitment to God and to your spouses. So better stop it than to be tempted to start a forbidden relationship.
2007-09-03 05:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by gandakoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cutie you sound smart as well as beautiful! Your decision in my opinion was right on the mark! I am a US soldier fighting in Iraq right now for the second time and when I read your question it was like deja vu all over again. When I was here the first time in 2003, my now ex wife took off with everything that I owned and left me and I didnt see her until about 6 months ago. Her and I had the same feelings that you mentioned in your question. We had passion still there and we both still felt it. I was still bitter about the way she left me, but she still insisted that we keep in secret contact with each other. I was seeing someone deeply at that point in my life and she had remarried as well, but she convinced me to continue to rendevous and see her on occasion. Only before I came out her in March did I tell her I cannot do it anymore. She gave me this big old guilt trip saying that I never cared for her and that if she meant to me as much as she should have she would have never left. Look my point in telling you all this is to show you why you made the right decision. He is obviously trying to get close to you for a reason. He is probably not happy in his marriage and wants his cake and eat it too! He wants sex with you! Just dont give him the opportunity to get too close to you, because it will be hard to say no! You did the right think cutie and remember to SMILE! Life is precious and so are you!
2007-09-08 18:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go backward? Is your husband a good man? He must have been for you to marry him, so don't betray him. Your decision was right in not contacting your ex. You are married to someone else and so is he. If the two of you were to continue a relationship, don't you think it would only be a matter of time before you were unfaithful? Don't betray your husband, leave the ex in the past.
2007-09-02 21:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your decision is absolutely right. if you give him a chance to communicate with you again, the old flame might be kindled and you might start a relationship all over again with him with you admitting that you are both in love with each other until now. so keep away from him please and think of both your present partners.
2007-09-10 12:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment that is suppose to be life long, stick by your husband, you should have never got married if you are that unsure about someone or something that could have came around sooner or later to get to you having second thoughts like that!
2007-09-09 10:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Boo Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you,
you can be communicate with him, but both off you will agree on time of conmmunicate like you said you have married, so your boyfriend now will not konw as you said also that you still love him,Try to get in tounch with him.
2007-09-02 21:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by samuel d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Good for you!! In this day and time, most people would not have had the courage to make such a hard decision.
2007-09-09 15:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by ~Quixotic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your decision was right. You're doing the honorable thing and that's respectable! Stay away from temptation and be faithful to your husband.
2007-09-02 21:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay faithful to your husband. think about how you would feel if you found out your husband was secretly meeting his ex on the side. you would automatically think they were meeting to have sex right? you were so right to leave this guy alone because he is just using you to get what he wants. stay true to your hubby and dont loose him if he is a good man...
2007-09-09 15:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by crazy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to do that. You admit you both have feeling for eachother. Not a good mix. Do not succumb to his advances and praises, he will ruin your current marriage girl....Look after yourself.
2007-09-09 10:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by tepania4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋