I am 17years old iam in love with a guy who is younger then me $he also loves me $cant live witht each other now the problem is that as he is 3years younger then me my parents will not agree 4 our marriage in future in future i want $he too want 2 marry me by nowing this my parents will get hurt now iam jst confused that i dnt wnt to leave him $dnt want to hurt my parents also so plz plz plz plz tell wat would be the rite thing 4 me should i continue the relationshio????
2007-09-02 20:26:29 · 25 answers · asked by bhuvaneswari i 2 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
Come on bhuvaneswari.. U are in love with a 14 year old? He is just a kid.. I am not against loving a younger man. My lover is 3 years younger to me too... But he is 22 and i am 25. U have to give this whole thing a rest for some time., some years.
Why do u worry now abt ur parents and marriage? Go to college study well. Help ur this guy to study well too.. Once u are grown up and he is above 20 years, u will be independent and matured and will be able to take good decision. If u have both studied well and have become successful adults in ur careers, ur parents will not object to ur marriage. Even if they do, u can convince them because u will be in a right position to do so at that time.
That is what my bf and i did. Now, I am doing my educational degree and he is doing his medicine. Even now, we have to wait for more years so we are successful in our careers first before we marry. If u are worried to not hurt ur parents, and u still want this guy, this is the only thing u can do. I gave my life as an example to u because i understand u. I request u to take this as an example. U can email me if u want, from my profile page.
Do right thing at right time.. This is age for study, study well... both of u. When u are grown up, u can do things. Just dont ruin ur good futures. All the best.
2007-09-02 20:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Manu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. Keep dating, but don't do anything drastic right now. You have your whole life ahead of you. Getting yourself tied down at such a young age is just going to make you resent him later. Your story is a story told countless times and rarely does the story end up with a happy ending. Do you really want to be married and most likely pregnant before you turn 21? Isn't there something you want out of life...a college degree, a career, independence?
You know, you can live together and be in a relationship without the marriage. Do yourself a favor and slow down.
2007-09-03 04:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mark G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very complicated issue.
I think you need to concentrate on your studies.
Since he is very young you should also encourage him to do well in school
This will be a good start to secure a good education and job so you guys can have a good family together.
It is normal to fall in love, at this age you need to be a bit logical...
i cannot decide if you should continue with him or not but all I can tell you is that dont sacrifice everything for love at this age because there are other things to achieve at this age that u wont be able to get back when you become older.
Secure a good future first before worrying about marriage in future. He has to get a good education and job. Besides taht you need to prove to your parents u do well in studies and when you get good job in future and be independant...i am sure your parents will a gree.
Be practical and study hard..encourage him to study well too Give your parents good impression by getting good education and job so that they can trust your desicion in future.
2007-09-03 03:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anne H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling sounds like really strong emotions. When one is overwhelmed with strong emotions its difficult to see past them. Take a step back from everything to clear your mind.
Life is continuously changing- day to day. What you so strongly believe now, you may not believe in a years time.
Go with the flow of life, everything is not definite. When you are a few years older, you will have a perspective which you can't even imagine now. You have much amazing and wonderful experiences ahead of you.
What do you really want? What do you want the outcome to be? How do you want to communicate this to your parents to have a positive result? How do you want to react instead?
What are things you can do and think to make this situation have a good and positive outcome?
Make a list and be kind to yourself
2007-09-03 20:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by violetlif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to sound like a nad, but two kids aged 14 and 17 have no clue about real life yet. If you're still seeing each other in two years (I'm betting you won't be...) and you become emancipated at 18 and he reaches 16 (minimum marrying age in most states) you'll have some decisions to make. Until then, try not to get caught up in the drama, have fun.
2007-09-03 03:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Know-it-all 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you whether or not to continue this relationship, that's something only you and he can decide.
What I can tell you is that in my experience the best way to approach this kind of situation is to create an open and honest dialogue with everyone involved. So, talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Maybe he could be in on this convo? What about his parents... Maybe he should do the same.
One thing I can almost be certain of: Your parents probably only want what's best for you because they love you. The may be trying to protect you. Maybe they think you are too young for marriage. Maybe they think he is too young for marriage. These are things you should discuss with your parents in a calm and rational manner.
2007-09-03 03:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by m s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with relationships and dating for the question instead of news and events but 17 is a bit too young to get married... and 14 is definitely too young. Wait for him to turn 18 and if you want to get married and have kids then... go for it! He won't be able to support you and won't be able to get enough school to give you a good life if he marries now. Just stick with dating and if your parents complain that you aren't getting married at 18 just tell them to be patient. The world doesn't need you popping out babies right away.
and on that note be safe with him.
2007-09-03 03:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by disruption_grey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear..very first thing is that U have a lot of stages of your career still left.u might be feeling love with somone which may be an infactuation at this point of time n in this age.else if you think a lil more that in your coming future u will definitely find someone which will be most compatible and real for you and your family to accept.So i would like to let this time pass by either by concentrating over ur career or involving in other creative things u like.Make plans with your family to Njoy days..
2007-09-03 03:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well bhu what to tell you anyway since you want suggestion i will give it . first of all you are a young girl and have been inflactuated with this relation ship one thing you been watching lots of movies this is the main trouble secondly this is your studying age and in this competetive world you should not think all this rubbish iam not against love but believe me with my expierence in life i will tell you you are not in the right track sorry dear everything in life of every human being everything has got it own time and oppurtunity . i hope you will change your stance . best of luck.
2007-09-03 10:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by venkatraman s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 &13 are too young to get married. keep enjoy dating secretly for some more years (5-10), dont leave the friendship/love/relationship. mind may/can/shall/will change to some other direction as time passes.Wish you all the best!
2007-09-03 08:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Carpenter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋