What will you do if you are married,w/ wonderful kids but have fall out of love for your partner?

Answer 1

Falling out of love, for me, is NOT a reason to end a marriage. Remember that marriage is a social institution that is considered to be the foundation for making a family. Try to make your marriage intact as much as possible so that your kids would grow up with a complete family.

In my opinion, the valid reasons for dissolving a marriage are the existence of physical violence, irreconcilable differences, and the like.

But if you are still in good terms with your partner, try to hold on to that marriage. You can still be friends even if you are no longer lovers.

Answer 2

Just because you are not with your partner anymore doesn't make you a bad parent you can still be as good to them gone as you were while you were under the same roof. Falling out of love happens and there is not anything wrong with it. People change. Or sometimes it could just be a phase that you are experiencing right now. You start thinking of all the things you could be doing if you weren't in a relationship. If that's the case really think about what you want. There is kids involved. Don't be selfish. Appreciate what you have right now and think about what you partner puts up with about you and think would somebody else do the same. What ever it is that you do good luck and best wishes. I have been there and done that. I made a decision to stick it out and go the extra mile to find what made me and my wife happy again. I rebuilt our friendship and things are going great for now but hey its a start.

Answer 3

Make an effort to bring the romance back to your relationship. If she's doing something to hurt you regularly, talk to her about it. Otherwise, reach out to her and add some spice to your life. Show her that she is important by doing something kind for her. She'll probably reciprocate by doing something for you. As you reach out to each other, you may find you can rekindle the sparks. Buy her some lingerie as a surprise, or take her out to a romantic dinner. Help her with the housework, bring her roses, or take her out for coffee and conversation. Just whatever you think would touch her. Even if you don't really feel like being the one to reach out, make yourself do it anyway, and as you pay attention to her you may find things about her that make you fall in love all over again. Relationships are never easy - they take work to maintain and grow. Also, relationships tend to ebb and flow. Just because you're not high on the romantic feelings right now, doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is a bad one. Just put the work into it, and you'll be pleased with the rewards. Good luck!

Answer 4

Be honest to my spouce. Why beat around the bush? That you get a divorce, does not in any way shape or form stops you from being a responsible parent to your children. My best friends parents pulled-off that "stay together for the kids" act for 20+ years (until each went their separate ways to college, go to jail for dealing drugs or start families) and that's not healthy. I don't know if you, or anyone you know is going through this, but as selfish as it sounds, when you're not happy, you can't make anyone else happy, and kids are very smart, they're lie detectors and "emotion detectors" as well. Hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 5

hey, im married, ive got wonderful kids. i dont think my family's the good definition of a perfect family nor a perfect marriage, we do have fights, but these are part of being married. why not try to bring back the "fire". look back and reminisce how you started out, remember the good old times, rekindle the feeling. If this wont work, try counselling. I think they'd be the best people to approach. And you know, prayer helps!

Answer 6

Since you asked me what I would do, here goes.

I'd talk with my husband about it. If I know why, I'd let him know that too. I'd tell him that I want to makes things work, or make things stronger etc and that's why I'm talking with him about it.

Also, notice I said "talk with" not "talk to".

Kids aside, you need to want to stay in the marriage for there to be any chance of one existing. And how much you want to stay in it will determine how much effort you will put into making your relationship with your partner work.

Before separation and divorce should be considered, both you and your partner need to want and need to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. Then, if things have changed that much and neither of you feel it's going anywhere, at least you can then both agree on it and at least both of you did try.
And then at least you can tell your kids truthfully that both of you actually tried to make things work.

By the way. a lot of people say "for the kids" ... but there's no point in that if neither of you adore each other etc. You'll just be teaching them that it's okay to stay in a bad or unhealthy situation.

Hope this works.

Answer 7

I went through this and I have a two year old son. It's more work than I though it would be but I worked hard on reinventing my relationship with my wife. Things change dramatically as time goes on and there's no way to keep the things you have. Talking about it is a good way to start, but acting on rebuilding your love for another person is worth more than words. Dont expect results or for that person to change into what you want them to be, do it for yourself and they'll fall in turn and learn to grow with you if they feel the same way.

Answer 8

Love is not something you fall into or out of.
You are confusing love with lust.
Love is a choice.
Find those things that you admire about your mate.
Remember what is was that brought you together.
Look at those beautiful children, and remember it is
that spouse of yours that brought those children into this world.
The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.
Do something special for your spouse,
LOVE is WORK, everday is not perfect, but those imperfect days, are the days you remember those special moments.

Answer 9

Why - How? I suggest U look at everything - yourself included. Where did it go off the boil - why did it go off the boil? R u sure its gone off the boil?

2 wonderful kids as well!

Have you talked about this to your partner / have u discussed it? If your hiding it - Don't! Put it on the table without delay!

Nothing will never be resolved unless U talk - look at it!

Seems the obvious isn't being faced!

Answer 10

I will look for help--counselling may be. For as long as I can i will find ways to keep the marriage working. As of now,im using the "sound of silence" to assess my self and my marriage.May be by tomorrow, I will try try counselling or patch things up. Who knows?Or may be I'll just leave and explain things to my kids when they get a little older.
May be I will let myself fall inlove with him again by looking at his good side - looking the way i looked at him the day i fell inlove. It may not be easy,but at least worth a try.