My in-laws want carte blanch on having my son spend the night. The problem is, no one tells ME until effing 10-11PM if that. I think my husband is going to get our son and he's spending the night. I told my husband how I feel and he just keep quiet. This is really making me mad because my mother in law also keeps her other grandson who she expects ME to baby sit one day. I don't want to do that. I want to keep MY OWN CHILDREN! Is there something wrong with me? Any suggestions? BTW, my son is only 18 months old!
2007-09-02 20:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Sky Fire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As your sons mother, you have the right to say if your son spends the night some where else or not. If you don't want him to stay at his grandmother's go get him yourself.
You also don't have to babysit anyone Else's kids. You have the right to say NO. Just make sure you mean it and don't back down. Don't let anyone try to guilt trip you into doing something you don't want to. Nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. Be assertive. Just say NO and mean it.
2007-09-02 20:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your in laws are even more over bearing than mine! Which is amazing! I love my husbands real mother, but his adoptive parents are morons. Your husbands mother sounds crazy. If I were you I'd keep my son away from her.
You are his mother. You have the right to say no....and he should be smart enough to know that keeping you happy is way more important than keeping his mom happy. There is nothing wrong with you. I would be pissed if my mother in law basically made my son stay the night with her. That's wrong. If you guys went out of town or if you needed her to watch your son, that's one thing. But being crazy about is another deal. And do not babysit anybody else's kid if you don't want to. You aren't a neglectful parent so there is no reason for either grandchild to stay there. She is just CRAZY!
You have the power to say no. Just say you are busy. If she asks make something up or just say it's none of your business.
EDIT: MulgaBob...if the in laws were a bit more accepting of their daughter in law and didn't judge her parenting and didn't try to be controlling.... then there wouldn't be a problem.
2007-09-03 03:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Had you possibly considered that your hubby is not where he says he was - and that is why he's keeping quiet?
Think about it - that could be a whole new can of worms for you - not wanting to put salt in the wound or anything you understand - tee hee! >:)
2007-09-03 03:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess I am confused... your inlaws want to let your son stay the night once in a while and you have a problem with that, or???
2007-09-03 03:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by banderson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just come straight out with it & say you don't like your in-laws. They probably don't like you as well - & I wouldn't doubt that!!!
So, no matter what the circumstances are, here is yert another bash the in-laws thread by a DIL. They appear in here ever too often!
2007-09-03 03:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My youngest is 4 and I don't allow her to stay at my own parents. Take a stand, It's your child. If you think your child is too young then that's it. End of discussion. You're the mom.
2007-09-03 03:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey "Sky Fire"...you need to get grounded here...I don't comprehend this question!
2007-09-03 03:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
your husband is obviously a mummys boy and has no balls!!! you go round and pick up your child... and find your husbands replacement balls and see if he can use them!!!
2007-09-03 03:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋