Why do women flirt with married men? are they more attracted to them?

Question

Ever since I got married and I wear my wedding ring, women are much more flirtatious and often give me more notice. Why is this the case? Do women find married men more attractive? My wife is so beautiful so it doesnt affect me, since no one can compare but for other men, I feel bad for them...

i meant but for other men-who dont have a gorgeous wife like mine

Answer 1

I always thought it was because women know that there would be no commitment involved, just sex.

Answer 2

A better question would be, why do you take it seriously?

You noticed the behavior change but attributed it to these women suddenly being more seriously interested, rather than perhaps they are more comfortable with you? This is how we are with female pals, you are just getting a taste now.

My personal perspective, if you are married or a co-worker, you are now 'neutered,' and in the context of social interaction, not a serious prospect = 'safe' to be jokey and flirtatious without any possible bluff being called, eh?

Course there are STILL those married guys that think being friendly and jokey means you are interested... and try to push that, which calls for a cool down.

Answer 3

Well in my opinion I think there are 3 reasons for this:

#1 - A married man is a safe because you already know what the outcome of the flirting should be(he shouldn't be interested) so its just in fun.

#2 Some ladies like the chase and a married man should make for a good one.

#3 Some ladies are evil and just want to take a man from another woman just to make themselves feel better about themselves ie they are prettier, have more to offer sexier etc. Like prove they are the alpha female so to speak

ok maybe 4 i also agree with Aleksandr M's reason as well

Answer 4

Firstly, how do you know they notice your wedding ring at all? it could be that you are more confident since getting married and that attracts women.

On the other hand, yes, women are attracted to those men who they see as providers i.e married men. being married shows that they are responsible, steady etc all the qualities that are desirable in a mate.

BUT....
it could be because these women merely see you as safe... you are married... you are in love with your wife.. hence they can flirt, and remain aware that you are not going to misconstrue the flirtation for something more then it is.

Answer 5

Don't feel bad for the other married men who are getting "noticed" or flirted with by the wild women out there in the world and don't feel bad that their wives don't compare to yours. Just be happy with what you have and give encouragement to the others to keep their pants up if you see they are in a dangerous situation. We all need to be aware of what we have at home, male or female, it goes both ways. Before single sex marriages a ring signified that the person was married to someone of the opposite sex and committed, which in itself makes a person more sexy if you think about it.

Answer 6

A lot of women (and men) feel more challenged by someone they perceive as unattainable. It's the same reason a lot of women think they can "turn" gay men straight. People tend to want what they can't have. Men often use that to their advantage, though. I know a single man or two who've picked up women with their fake wedding bands... human nature is a simple yet complex thing.

PS. Not ALL women are that vapid (or imbecilic).

Answer 7

Perhaps it is because of two reasons:

1) married men have displayed what is known as sexual success: by wearing a wedding ring and making it known of their relationship status, this could be an inadvertent signal

2) flirting with a married man is safe, as there is no follow through expected; so it is safe to flirt with a married man

Answer 8

the married thing lets women know that they aren't the only ones checking you out, and it gives them the confidence that they like something good. the ring is just a symbol and signal that you're a good catch. its like a good product that gets sold at a store: people only buy it if other people give their approval (in your case, marriage is the sign for "number one on the product sales" chart)Some women may find married men more attractive, but its not the case with every female out there. Have a happy marriage!

Answer 9

Many women feel it to be a challenge going for married men.
Which they then dump when the man finally gives in.
I, unfortunately, was befriended by a woman who was pretending to be my best mate. What i didn't know was that she was interested in my husband and used me to get to him.
We were sat round the kitchen table talking when i needed the loo. What i found out later was that she actually removed her undies and showed him everything while i was gone.
He promptly kicked her out, but God, how upsetting it was to know this had happened. Apparently she does it all the time, and any man that responds to her is promptly dumped which results in the loss of wife and family as well. How sad is that?

Answer 10

Maybe those women are just crazy. I find married men less attractive (for myself) becaus they are unavailable. Unless I know they're in the middle of a divorce and the marriage is over, but then they aren't wearing the ring anymore...

Answer 11

Because there is no real involvement, the guy is basically unavailable and that makes it quite tantalising, a challenge to some women, it's a game, sometimes of course it can all come unstuck especially when he falls for the other woman and dumps the wife.