I am a divorced mom living in Hawaii and I often use a chat room that is for people in Hawaii. I have met a lot of my friends that way. I have emailed for a few months with a woman who just moved to Hawaii (a different island) with her husband and we became friendly, so I invited her to stay with us if they ever came to my island. They planned a trip here and arrived yesterday. We had a bbq at my house and then went to the beach in the afternoon and out to dinner last night (they paid). This morning I drove them halfway around the island to a beautiful beach where we swam and snorkeled. Then we went shopping and out to lunch and saw some other sights. When we got home, I took a quick nap but my son didn't sleep. When I woke up, they told me they had decided "we'd all be more comfortable" if they stayed at a hotel tonight. I dropped them at the hotel without speaking to them for the entire ride. My feelings are really hurt as I feel I've been used. What do you think?
2007-09-02 19:12:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I forgot to mention that these same friends stayed with people in another town last weekend (new people they just met when they moved to the island) and stayed all weekend. No hotel.
2007-09-02 20:02:16 · update #1
Actually, they have been excellent guests, and probably do not want to put you out. There is no reason to end a friendship over such a trivial thing!!
2007-09-02 19:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have been a really nice hostess when your friend came over to your house. She felt that she was invading your space and she chose to stay in a hotel instead. She was probably being considerate of your kids and your household and she didn't want to wear out her welcome. Don't end your friendship over something silly like this. Continue to be there for her like you've always have been. Don't ask her any questions and enjoy her company while she is still on the island. People do these kinds of things in most cases and it is very common.
2007-09-03 02:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been an excellent host but maybe your guests want to explore your island alone by themselves, respect their wish to stay in a hotel its not a big deal, dont "bug" too much and let them some freedom.No reason whatsoever to break up your friendship.
2007-09-03 02:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. I think you all had a good time and sometimes, people just need space. Unless, I have missed something,
2007-09-03 02:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by culater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess you didn't hit it off as good as you thought. maybe you should be asking them whats the matter instead of us
2007-09-03 02:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It clear. Mabe your son *Depending on his age* maybe did something to your guest that up set them.
2007-09-03 02:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Alec B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋