Whenever someone gives me a long sincere compliment I seem to get sad. I get regular comments on a daily basis which I'm sure most people do but when people say something really nice and take the time to tell me it makes me really really sad. Why? It it normal?
Example: Someone wrote me a letter saying that I was smart, sweet, beautiful, very cute and told me to never let anyone put me down...
2007-09-02 18:09:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
And the letter makes me sad... for a long time...
2007-09-02 18:10:23 · update #1
I don't think it makes you sad, it think you are touched by the kindness and it brings you to a tear or two. You're sensitive to the kindness of others, you appreciate when they do that. Not all tears are that of sadness, many people tear up when they are happy, and even cry uncontrollably for a while, but they really are happy. It is a release of emotions, that is all, you are not abnormal. Bless your heart.
2007-09-02 18:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Are you insecure and don't believe them?
Does everything make you sad?
You might want to make an appt. with a counselor to discuss these things. Sounds like you have some work to do.
Compliments generally should make you feel good (unless they're coming from people you despise).
2007-09-02 18:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cerulean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you don't care for the place you are in life right now. Sure you are nice, sweet, pretty, popular, smart, etc.... but you are a person who wants to be challenged, and to receive a compliment just slows down the process of growing for you. A bunch of people are like you! They are those who are the warriors in life. They need to fight for ever scrap of growth they can get. Getting a compliment only puts on the brakes for self evaluation. It's difficult to grow when you get information that would make a saint arrogant. You know yourself better than anyone! Give yourself a quick evaluation. If you need improvement in an area, now you have focus, you have a mission. Get on with the journey of self improvement! Don't hang with people that give out compliments like hand shakes. Hang with those who give them when deserved. On the flip side don't hang with people who constantly tear you down (ie: inlaws lol).
2007-09-02 18:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your main problem is your "self confidence"and "inferiority"! You dont like the appreciation of others coz you, at first, dont think youre good.
Just try to understand first what is COMPLIMENT
COMPLIMENT is a flattering phrase of praises and words of goodness upon a person
now ask yourself this question!!!
Am i worthy to be appreciated? flattered? praised?
then focus on the reason why you've had a compliment!! Look for things you have accomplished(the positive ones), Feel all your labor on things you've done great!!
Example: You won on a singing contest, then they said,
"Hey!I love your voice, you sang great!!
So think of the times you've practiced that so much!
Another: write down all the good things about you, dont forget to write also the bad things... after that read all what you've written then burn those bad ones!!
2007-09-02 18:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by jimilie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably sad because you have low self-esteem. You are having trouble accepting positive comments. I am betting that you would be more willing to accept the comment that you are an ugly loser than you would be if I said you were a beautiful, intelligent woman. If you have a negative view of yourself then it is easy to accept the negative comments and reject the positive ones. You are sad because someone sees the best in you but you do not.
I bet you are "smart, sweet, beautiful, very cute" because people generally don't say things like that if they don't mean them. You need to look in the mirror each day and say "I am good enough, I am smart enough and people like me". When you believe that, quit doing it. Believe in yourself! Hold your head up high and realize that your self-doubt is holding you back. Once you start believing in yourself you will be AMAZED on how the quality of your life improves.
If you want me to confirm that you are "very cute" send me a pic...I always give honest answers ; )
As VH once said "stop looking out and start looking in. Be your own best friend". Good luck and be postive!
2007-09-02 18:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Doc Biz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want to be unique, then when someone gives you a common compliment that other people get also, you feel too ordinary? Or maybe you expect more of yourself?
2007-09-02 18:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the usual reaction. My guess is that the compliment suggests to you, what you MIGHT be, but aren't. It makes you feel, "I don't deserve it." IMO, this indicates pretty weak ego-strength. You may literally not know who you are.
2016-03-17 22:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that people around you are sensing you being depressed and trying to build your spirits by showing you that you are awesome and shouldn't be down at all. Maybe you are depressed. Perhaps you should see a doctor.
2007-09-02 18:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Bink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you feel that they expect something from you, and that you might let them down.
Just know that you don't owe anyone anything.
2007-09-02 18:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Teaim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you have bad self esteem
2007-09-02 18:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋