A big old black man named BUCK. She works in a hospital. She said he had a back injury and needs round the clock medical care, yet he doesnt have any insurance thus she brought him home so she could take care of him. She is telling me that i must sleep out in the garage, so he can have our bed as he needs a regular bed to sleep in due to his bad back. She sleeps in the same room with him so she can massage his back as needed at night.
My friends and family say im being used like a sucker. I dont think so. I think my wife is just a very good hearted person. What do you think?
2007-09-02 17:39:43 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to make things clear, she sleeps in the same bedroom (my old bedroom) with him everynight. Just in case he needs medical care of course.
I trust her! But everyone says i shouldnt!
2007-09-02 17:45:46 · update #1
CC,
What does his race have to do with anything? Would it be better if she had been with a white man? In my opinion the problem is that she was with another man, keywords being "another man" NOT YOU!
I hope this doesn't offend you, but CC it's just wrong that she's with someone else other than you.
2007-09-03 11:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by g_brown1975 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate that you are in this predicament. You can't change your wife's mind on this matter but maybe you can lead by example. I hate racism. If this man loves your daughter and is good to her and treats her the way she deserves to be treated then what more could a parent ask for in a significant other for their child? Color should not a an issue. There are white people that are criminals, wife beaters and everything else. Crime has not "color" if that makes any sense. Try to explain to Jerome how your wife is and just continue to treat him with respect and like part of the family. Maybe eventually your wife will come around. I wish you the best.
2016-05-19 23:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I THINK THAT U R A DAMN FOOL AND A RACIST. I'M SORRY I THINK THAT IF U DON'T PUT THEM OUT THAT U R ASKING TO BE USED AND ABUSE .THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING NICE AND HELPING PEOPLE BUT AS A WIFE I AM NOT GOING TO BRING ANOTHER MAN HOME AND PUT MY HUSBAND OUT OF THE BED AND SLEEP WITH ANOTHER MAN . DO U REALLY BELIEVE THAT IF THE SITUATION WAS THE SAME BEING IF U BROUGHT HOME ANOTHER WOMAN (NO MATTER WHAT RACE SHE WAS) DO BELIEVE THAT SHE WOULD BE OK WITH IT? AND WOULD SHE JUST PACK HER THINGS UP AND MOVE INTO THE GARAGE OR ANY WHERE ELSE IN THE HOUSE. WOULD SHE RESPOND TO THE SITUATION THE SAME WAY U HAVE? IF NOT TRY RESPONDING THE SAME WAY THAT U BELIEVE THAT SHE WOULD . GOOD LUCK I'M SORRY FOR SAYING THAT U WERE A FOOL I KNOW THAT U R HURTING AND I REALLY DID NOT MEAN TO PUT SALT IN YOUR OPEN WOUND I JUST WON'T U TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND STOP BEING A DOOR MAT FOR HER AND HER NEW LOVER.
2007-09-02 18:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by LILSAN34 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well your a trusting Husband!! And a freakin fool. I think this question is bogus really .. Cause no man is realy this freakin stupid. I sure wouldnt let another dude in my freakin bed with my wife. And if I caught them!?? can you say life without parole!! Get a grip move out divorce her if this is real, If its just a crock of bull, try to think up of a half way believeable lie next time
2007-09-02 18:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by R J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be a good hearted person, but that is alittle too much kindness, something else is going on than just a massage, where is his house or family, I think there are other sources that can help this man, and why do you have to sleep in the gargage, don't you have a couch, something has to be done, its not right.
2007-09-02 17:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by peaches1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is unilaterally putting a stranger's needs ahead of yours. Suddenly you don't matter? What does that say about your relationship?
It would be bad enough if Buck shared the bedroom with the two of you; but your wife evicting you sounds like there's more going on between the two of them than just private medical care.
If I were in that situation, I'd insist my wife come with me to counseling, if there were any chance to save the marriage.
2007-09-02 17:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Consider This... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if this is a for real question, I think BUCK, regardless of his color, should not be sleeping in the bed with your wife. Can't you put him up in the living room or something? No man with any sense would let another man sleep with his wife, regardless of his condition.
2007-09-02 17:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kate J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you have a very vivid imagination. a black man named BUCK? SERIOUSLY?! well man, i think your wife is taking care of YOUR GENEROSITY. yes thats right, shes using your willingness to sleep in the garage and let him take over your bed, and youre left out in the cold. NO ONE sleeps in YOUR bed!! Even if you guys have been married forever, love eachother and never have cheated before, you cant tolerate this. you're whipped man. sorry to say it, (hey, ive been whipped bad before) but you're whipped and your wife is massaging another man in your bed, while youre in the garage.
can you explain to me, also, whyyoure in the garage, and not in the living room couch, or something?
too many inconsistencies. i think you're lying.
2007-09-02 18:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gators08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not about trust at this point. your wife has no respect for you in the least. she knew than you would be her when she told you this man story. give me a break. stop being a doormat for this woman. step up and be the man that you think you are. aint no way in hell a real man/husband would allow this to happen right in her husband. NEW FLASH YOU WIFE IS VERY SEXUAL WITH THIS MAN. you need a reality pill quickly. but you have allowed her to get away with this crap. there is nothing wrong with this man back other than the hump in it from having sex with your wife while you are in the garage. WAKE UP. GodBless.
2007-09-02 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am with you, she is a very good hearted person, but to a fault. Yep, he indeed has problems, but you should not have to sleep in the garage because he does not have insurance/family / or friends, unless you are ok with this.
Talk to wifey, Buck can at least supply a bed for himself.
2007-09-02 17:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋