How can I learn to be a better talker?

Question

Throughout my life I've been very shy / a loner. I feel almost addicted to being alone. But, lately I'm feeling conflicted about it. I can accomplish a lot more on my own, but, I'm going through my whole life knowing very few people and it is actually painful to talk (even though I have a fine vocabulary)...
I just feel that my connection to people is slipping away....I do activities that one can do alone. I almost don't know how to relate to people. It is very hard not to offend others or them you as soon as you start opening your mouth and thinking. All you can talk about is the weather or something factual. If you read some of this -- thank you for taking a shot....

Answer 1

you remind me or me >.>

but on a more serious note, you just got to keep talking. there is plenty of people in the world.....just try not to be rude and talk about something you like, and ask if they like it. if they dont talk to you, screwem! move on to the next person....over a billion people in the world, 1 doesnt make a difference ;)

Answer 2

With the mentality you had, wont get you far (good to see you want a change). If you think your going to offend someone then rephrase what you want to say in a mannor your grandmother would approve of in your head, then say it. As far as accomplishing more on your own, you will only ever know once you have seen both sides to life. That being the non-socialising person you are and also the friendly chatterbox you could be lol.

"It's better to have tried and failed, then to have never tried at all"

That not knowing whether or not you have just dismissed your soulmate by not speaking to them or something will eat away at you!

Answer 3

I have offended lots of people on accident in my life, and caused whole rooms to stop the conversation dead in its tracks, just because I said something that was inappropriate.
I really dislike causing people to suffer, so of course I became more reclusive so that I would not hurt anyone.

What helped me to get back into the swing of things is to first notice the conversation as an observer. Most conversations are of no real significance other than the very important motivation for people to connect and not be lonely.
As you get back into the game of conversation, just keep it light and don't sway the conversation or try to find answers. Instead of making any bold statements, just harmonize with the conversation. Nobody should expect any more or less of you.

Peace.

Answer 4

I told a Co-worker with the same problem
she needed to talk to people more.
When shopping make comments, or ask a
question to someone near, or looking at the
same item. Do the same when looking at
pamphlets, or books.
Later she told me I helped her alot. Now
when she's around people she will make the
first move to talk to someone.

I do have a problem of finding people to
talk about the interest I have. I'm not a
gossiper but a Star Glazier, and into
World events .
They aren't.

Above " just me " suggested
Toast Masters,
I help a friend with the speeches
she gives there. She really enjoys
Toast Masters. :-)

Answer 5

well, in life, there's not actually the best way to interactive ways between you and other people..

the best way to improve your social skills are to interact with more people, and never go more than it's necessary.. and try to be friendly with smiles on your face all times, it really helps... generally, people will not react badly to anyone who has smiley face...

another thing is, try to read more regarding knowledge.. the more you read, the better knowledge you possess, you have more options to get to know others better...

people like to talk on what they like, it's simply yet complicated, so, if you can't socialise with others' without your interest, you are becoming isolated, so if you have knowledge and enough material + good interest to talk, i am sure u will be fine, you sound like a smart person and all u need is to give more experience on what you need.

but this is not ideal for office working, coz I tend not to talk alot or socialise alot at work because it will lead to more problems than fun.. also politics...

hope that helps

Answer 6

I don't know if you have a Group Called "Toastmasters" near you. they can give you a lot of help.

See

You never know you may end up being one of the great Orators of your time. Don't be shy and good luck.

Answer 7

If you are humiliated.