I hadnt spoke to him in about 3 months but he calls me to tell me about his wreck.Its other drivers fault. we dated 6 years and then split up. I have known him for at least 15 years.When he called I said I would visit him.He had to have surgery he wanted to make amends with me so we talked alot then after that I went to check on him and he lives alone but his 65 year old mother lives across the street and she checks on him alot but I became worried when I realized he was in constant pain and the meds made him groggy so his mom started doling out the meds to make sure he didnt OD but sometimes she would forget and give him his meds hours late by which time he was in horrid pain and crying so Ive used a system so they write it down and Ive started being there every day so I could make sure he gets them and of course I cook and clean for an hour a day there and try to visit with him and I love him but not like b4.The very day he called a guy from work asked me out .Can I date now? ? ?
2007-09-02 17:27:25 · 13 answers · asked by butterflyspy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep you can. As the others have said you are being very generous with your ex but you don't have to put your life on hold because of him. You may want to explain to whomever you are dating the situation though in case they get jealous.
2007-09-02 18:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being a very good friend to your ex by being there for him when he needs it!
Yes of course you can date now! Why not? If you want your relationship with your ex to be a friendship than that is your call to make. It would be right for him to know that is what you want.
If you think you may want to get back with him than that's a litle more awkward. But again of course you can date now. Just be straight about the total situation with whoever you date and if they still want to date you than fine. If not than that should be fine too. Fair is fair.
I hope it works out for all the best :)
2007-09-03 00:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Ex-boyfriend may feel you have something more than friendship going on. If your feelings are not as before I would make that clear to him. Yes, I would date and keep looking for that feeling that comes only once in a lifetime.
As far as my ex calling me, I too would probably go see him but to be honest it would only be out of guilt because he called.
2007-09-04 15:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Char 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an issue he wouldnt call me , he had brain surgery and I didnt find out until 2 month's later he just didnt show up for his weekends with his daughter didnt ask his mum or his drug using girl friend to ring and let me know why he wasnt coming (she wouldnt ring me anyways she thinks everyone wants every man she gets with paranoid).
2007-09-03 00:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Missy but I must say you have done a very nice thing. This has become such a selfish world. How nice of you to do this for your ex. I love to hear stories like this.
Best wishes and much happiness to you.
2007-09-03 00:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a really kind person and this is why your ex called you, but the more you help him, the more attached he is going to get. For his sake and yours, you have to move on. Go on dates, have a life. If you're worried about his care giver, call a priest, a rabbi or a social worker to take over that job.
2007-09-03 00:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rider-Writer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can date. You're very nice for helping him out. That doesn't mean you have to go back with him. You're doing him a favor because you're a good person not because you want him.
2007-09-03 01:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so, but make sure [if you don't want them] you don't start to develop feelings for him again while spending that much time with him....But have you figured out why he called you in the first place??
2007-09-03 00:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by dontouchmedontrustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna help him out nothing wrong with that, if you care about him then its o.k. to help him . You don't have to have an affair with him and you can and should still date ! Make sure he knows your only helping him out as a friend!!!
2007-09-03 00:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you can....it's your life and you have all the right to date as all single women does.
I appreciate your kindness and concern to him but I'm sure that's just it. So go on and date...
2007-09-03 00:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋