I have been with my finance for 2yrs 1/2. we met in pittsburgh Pennsylvania were we both went to school. i am from Michigan were we live now an have good jobs. his family is expecting us to have the wedding near his home town. his family is very stubborn and would complain about the traveling. my family wouldn't mind the travel. but neither one of us has time to be running back and fourth to his home town to make the arrangements. i figure we get married were ever we moved and Michigan is were we moved. he wanted to stay close to home but didn't want to live to close because he has his own business that isn't expanded to far yet. i don't know what to do..he really don't care were we have the wedding but he will be hurt if his family doesn't come. i think that would be so wrong. Im confused an want his family as well as mine to join us...but planning a wedding 5.5 hours away from the location is hard we both have B.S in culinary management so its hard to take of in a restaurant! HELP!
2007-09-02 15:07:08 · 10 answers · asked by hopeless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is from a small town called johnstown pa which is 1 hour from pittsburgh...but he doesn't want to live in his home town so we moved to my home town...for 2yrs then were leaving but i don't know what his family problem is!
2007-09-03 04:51:56 · update #1
you should have the wedding where the two of you feel comfortable having it. for convenience sake, your hometown should do esp. since you are the bride. i think it's customary for the bride to choose location. the two of you can always plan a reception later in his home-town that way all his friends and family can come and feel like they are a part of the celebration.
2007-09-10 02:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You don't say WHERE his hometown is? I live in Michigan too! I would definitely stay put and plan the wedding in whatever town or city you live in NOW. His family will come around (hopefully) and, if they complain about it...too bad! It's your wedding. Have it where you want. There are so many beautiful choices here in Michigan! Has his family ever traveled to Michigan? Maybe they will make a little vacation out of it (along with coming to the wedding). My sister did that with all of her out of town friends that came to her wedding. Made up little "vacation" type brochures (or just go get them from the visitors center) of all that there is to offer in Michigan. That would be an idea for you to think about! Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful and (stress free?) wedding!
2007-09-02 22:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding so the 2 of you need to do what is best for the both of you. Sounds like it would be easier on the 2 of you if you had it in Michigan. His parents and family will eventually understand . And you could also have a small reception party back in Penn. so that members of his family whom could not attend the wedding will be able to meet you and celebrate with you. Besides that I always felt that the "Big Day" is should be geared more toward what the bride wants. Ladies dream of this day from the time they are little girls. Men see it as a big day but honestly the honeymoon is the biggest thing on their mind.
2007-09-10 19:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by chitownlifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a sacred commitment and the ceremony is about the two of you, not the extended family. You make the plans to have the wedding where it is most convenient and special to you. Unless his family is a bunch of first-class jerks they will find a way to be there.
You can always have a special get together in his hometown for people who were not able to travel later.
2007-09-10 15:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding day should not be held hostage to his family. If they love him they will be fine traveling to see you both be married. do the wedding where it works out for you. If it will hurt your business and add tons more stress to the planning of the marriage then you should not move the wedding to where they want it. This is your wedding not theirs.
2007-09-07 23:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lioness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the wedding where you live now. It's your day! 5.5 hours away is nothing to go attend a family wedding. Much happiness to you!
2007-09-10 01:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by SinSister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it is "your" day. Plan it the way and the place you want, you won't get a second chance. If they really care about their son, they will come. If they don't, then at least you will know where you stand. If it's something physical as to why they can't come, then maybe you ought to be the bigger person and accommodate them. Its your call. But surely you will score brownie points if you have it close to them.
2007-09-09 23:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wedding should take place wherever you two live. you shouldn't have to travel to make wedding plans just b/c his family wants you to. wouldn't you both be more comfortable in familiar surroundings? my step mom traveled 1500 miles to see her daughter get married. i think your future in laws should be able to do the same.
2007-09-02 22:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride's parents pay for the wedding. They should have it where they want it.
2007-09-10 19:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by james 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get it and plan for his familys hometown and then from there you can be in peace. its only once and you can do it and it will have everyone there as its hould be.
2007-09-10 19:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋