I'm really attracted to this guy that is married,and he's very sexy.I've never messed with a married man before, but I think he's attracted to me too,because he does things that a married guy shouldn't do,but we've never had sex or anything like that,just other things that if his wife saw, she would probably get mad.I'm afraid that if the opportunity arises,that I will succumb to temptation,and I've been cheated on before,and it's not a good feeling,so what should I do? REMEMBER, PEOPLE WHO HAVE HAD AFFAIRS ONLY!!!!!
2007-09-02 15:05:01 · 27 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not a good idea because you may only end up with a broken heart because he will probably not leave his wife for you. Some men like having their cake and eating it to and your worth more to yourself not ever accepting seconds. I would just avoid him and find someone that is single free and available because the married man has to much baggage and he needs to unload it before he can offer you more than just a romp in the sack! He will use you and when faced with a choice he will take his wife over you especially if he has children involved. Divorce is much to costly for men and if he has much to lose he may not think in the end that you would be worth it. You will only get hurt and it just isn't worth it sweetie. Take care and disconnect from him now before its to late.
2007-09-02 16:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were cheated on in the past ; something you admit was not a good feeling.So how do you think his wife is going to feel if you cheated with her husband and she found out.It is good that the affair has not become intimate or sexual.Don't succumb to temptation---not now ,not later ,not forever.Remember the old adages:1)you reap what you sow2)do to others as you want done to you.If you think about these two adages,the course of action you should follow will be very clear.Good luck
2007-09-02 22:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it was very brief.
For me it was just a physical thing so as soon as I got what I wanted, it was pretty much over.
He didn't like that, though. He expected me to become his girlfriend or something. But that wasn't what I had in mind.
Actually, I'd forgotten all about it until I read your question.
Well, if you've been cheated on and didn't like it one bit (who does?), I guess, you don't want to put others through that kind of unpleasant situation.
Are you just infatuated? Is it just physical attraction? Or are you getting emotionally involved?
In any case, getting involved with a married (or engaged or anyone in a serious relationship) person is -pardon the cliché- pretty much asking for trouble.
I've seen it.
In my case, there were a couple of times when I had to be in the company of his wife and I didn't like the feeling at all. Even though, I was no longer involved with her man, I have to admit I felt a bit sick and guilty.
What should you do? I think you know perfectly well what you have to do. We can fool others but not ourselves, right?
2007-09-02 22:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Melkiha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are content with a sex only relationship and your morals will allow then it is up to the two of you but you should be aware of the factors such as you will most likely have time only to get a room somewhere and then spend a few hours at most with each other and never get to go out where people may be that know your spouse ect. It is a lame way to go and most people learn after a time that the sex is something you can get most anywhere it is what it will do to your morals ect that should be your concern, Me i wised up and got going to those that are not married then when you get the chance you are able to go to the beach ect for the weekend ect. My advice is do not do the deed and stay true to yourself let the married man alone
2007-09-02 22:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Temptation,
What comes around goes around. You answered your own questions. The first is, you know he is attracted to you. Second, you know how it feels to be cheated on. Finally, stay away. It's a lose lose situation. You do not need confirmation from someone experienced. You know what could happen so, why put yourself in that position that could create hurt for other people involved.
BTW: Is there a shortage of single guys out there??? I didn't think so! Move on and find someone that can give you what you need. If your desire is dating a sexy guy then you may have to look a little longer. You can have your cake and eat to meaning, find someone that is single who can offer you full attention without hurting others, and you. I can sleep at night, can you? Let me know what happens. Good luck.
2007-09-02 22:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of adult married people who have cheated out here. Each had a reason that was valid for them at the time. In very few cases is it fully justified. It sounds like your temptation will be successfull. You aren't making him a cheater but you are one too.. You may be very attracted to him but I would suggest that your heart play second fiddle to your brain. Not knowing wether he's just out to score a piece or has home problems anyway, I won't talk about him. Remember, your helping him hurt his family.
2007-09-03 00:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the flattery of an attractive man straying from his wife you seek. the spot light is on you and you enjoy the attention. you don't really love this man i'm sure. pure selfish reasons are the only concerns here. if you truly loved him you wouldn't touch this man because you know that this could complicate his life and why would you do this to someone you think you love. You wouldn't. So you don't really love him. Just turn your back to him. Don't let him use you for something lacking in his own marriage. They never leave their spouses anyway. You will feel like his toilet after a while trust me.
2007-09-02 22:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I messed with someone who was engaged to be married and then ultimately got married. He did things to me that a married man shouldn't have done. Obviously, he is attracted to you also. You're going to do what you want to do. I can't give you any advice against it. But I will tell you this, I'd never been hurt by any other man like I was hurt by this man. He constantly lied to me, and I felt it was unneccessary. I fell in love with him and ended up getting pregnant with a baby that he told me that he wanted. If you haven't gotten involved yet, think about it HARD.
2007-09-02 22:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were cheated on before, so think of how you felt.....how his wife would feel. So what if he is hot....there are many hot guys out there. But see, this one is already taken. so there would only be a chance of sex, at HIS convenience. Dont get caught up in thinking more could ever come out of it because he wont leave his wife. I advise you to move along and find the unmarried hottie :)
2007-09-02 22:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by dirttrackgirl_77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you first and foremost you have to be ready. Because if you by any chance rush things up, you'll regret it. If you like him and he is respectful go for it. But remember that it is an affair, do not make this an every day thing. Other wise you are going to be miserable. Like I said go and do it, but do not make it a habit.
I wish you good luck, enjoy it.
2007-09-02 22:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋