Seriously though why do some people hate saying other people, happy? I could be in my house all day playing with my kids, watching a movie or playing a game on the pc, but then all of a sudden someone calls my husband and tells him I did this or I said that, I mean I haven't been out my house all day, so how the **** can they say I did or say something when I am in the house? I try not to hate people but some of my husbands family and friend make me wanna hate them to the 5th power. I tell him about it but he be like they my friends.Also the two friends he has, has comminent problems, they don't know how to stay with their wives and stop messing with other women. Should I be worried my husband might cheat on me also by the way his friends act? They don't see nothing wrong with it? Or should I just leave him and move on with my life with someone who family and friends will accept me? Since he has those type of friends and some family members does that mean he is like that too?
2007-09-02 14:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everybody for the positive answers. My statement might not have been written by a English Teacher, but the people who answered me understood what I was saying. I did not come on here to be graded, I only asked for your opinions on my situation not my English. To everybody else thanks again for the input. I wish I could choose more then one best answer but when my four hrs is up, I will choose one
2007-09-02 15:07:09 · update #1
Some more info about this. His friend or family has never said anything to me about the so call things I say or did, because they never talk to me unless they want something from me. In the beginning when we first meet, everything was ok until one day his sister who didn't like me told him a lie and he just hit me now me being 17, I thought he wouldn't do it again which he didn't until a year later but I still got back with him. Then we got married feb 2003, thought he would change but 9 months later he has a child by another didn't get a divorce only seprate. He only physical abused me 5 times and now we are doing okay. My aunt says I should be careful because he probably hasn't changed and since he has'nt touched me in 2 years doesn't mean he has changed. I cook, I clean, and I watch the kids while he goes to work mornings and nights then when he gets off he either go hang out with his friends or come home change and leave
2007-09-02 16:19:50 · update #2
Answers to your questions-
1.) People who don't like to see other people happy is because they think there is a limited amount of happiness in the world, and you are taking more than your fair share!
2.) They say things because they know your husband is a gullible idiot and will believe them over you, because he loves drama.
3.)Yes, you should be concerned with the friends your husband keeps. My mother always said "A bird of a feather flocks together", meaning that they have so much in common from the clothes they wear, right down to their behaviors.
4.)They don't see anything wrong with being selfish. They do however know it is wrong to committ adultry, because they'd be the first to justify murdering their spouse for it!
5.) I can only advise that it's better to make some strong descisions to MOVE AWAY from these influences. Your husband seems to be something of a 'follower' than a "leader". It's time that you stop foolishly following someone who is following another who you don't want to follow. Do you follow?
6.) Does it mean he IS like that too? It means that he is a follower. He is not a leader. He does not set the course, nor will he willingly change from it if it doesn't provide the easiest life for him.
2007-09-02 15:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi 1,
There's only one answer I can give you. Your husband's friends are jealous of the way your marriage has been doing, which is harmoniousl. So many people out there are full of poison. If you're doing bad, they will laugh at you, if you're doing well, they will sabotage you. As the saying goes, "It's so hard to be happy for someone if you yourself are not". And obviously your husband's friends are not happy at home, thus they go out and womanize..But then they see you and husband in a good relationship and they are jealous, so they have to sabotage everything. "Misery loves company"..Have a heart to heart talk with your husband and tell him your concerns and feelings..Say it nicely but don't leave anything out. For all you know, they might not be as close as you think..Do it before he starts believing his friends. Then continue being a loving, caring & understanding wife, because on normal circumstances a husband will only start to stray if he felt un-appreciated and not taken cared of at home..something which your husband's friends might be getting at home, thus this boorish behavios.The last thing you need to do is get angry. Because that will give his friends the opportunity to put a dent in your relationship.
2007-09-02 22:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People dont like to see others happy in your case because they are jealous and their own lives are miserable and empty therefore they want to see you go down hill too! Ignore there petty mind games if you know that what they are saying is full of lies then you have nothing to worry about , but if your husband starts believing them , then I would be asking where your relationship is going, whether to leave him or not and to consider whether he will cheat or not, because his friends do ..well only time will tell and it is only you who can make the choice to stay or to leave....good luck
2007-09-02 22:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is jealousy. As to your husband, you married him, what is he like? Only you know. Have a frank talk with him, setting out your concerns. Keep it on an even discussion, not an argument about the quality of his friends. Let him know you want your marriage to be the #1 priorty for both of you to work on. Build up your marriage, your children don't need to be dragged through a divorce because of gossip.
2007-09-02 22:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by always b natural 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have your husbands and kids to think about i would not worry about what others have to say because sometimes people are jealous of your relationship with your husband and see you happy and wish they had what you have. Dont worry about your husband cheating on you because his friends does it. no marriage is perfect but still contiue to love your husband no matter what god has a way of working things out.
best of luck
2007-09-02 21:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. More than likely if they are trying to start trouble is because they are jealous,either you are taking the attention off them or they are just plain out miserable!!!! I dont believe he will cheat just explain to him that they are lying, and trying to cause trouble,but i believe it will be okay.SO good luck, inlawas are usually the worst.If you love him stick it out.
2007-09-02 22:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people don't like to see other people happy because they are miserable themselves. and think that if they are not happy no-one else should be. and don't give up on your husband just because his family is all messed up, you cant judge him based on the problems of his family
2007-09-02 22:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ,if you are not just a good wife but a great woman I don't think your husband will cheat on you.
2007-09-02 22:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're not English literate enough to be using this website. Perhaps try asking in a forum of your first language or at the very least discovering something called a paragraph. It might help illicit more responses.
2007-09-02 21:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I know it some people are just jealous of a good relationship
2007-09-02 21:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋